new partner

[kaylasmammy]

my daughter father is a prat. basically promised me the world but he was just a pathetic excuse for a man.

8 months ago i met an amazing man on a rare night out and we got on like a house on fire. he is brilliant with my daughter and never complains when she throws tantrums or wakes up through the night. she is 20 months old and has started to call him daddy. I have never said to her to call him daddy and im not sure where she has picked it up from or even if she knows what it means.

i dont mind her calling him that but im not sure how he feels about it. im a very shy person and im not sure how to ask him how he feels about her calling him daddy.

has anyone been in this situation before? if so how did it work out?

i can see myself being with my man long term as we never argue and i love him very much but im scared that if he gets bored and leaves us she will be left wondering whats going on and never see him again.

i dont want to be in the situation where she calls several different men dad. my friends daughter has called 7 different men daddy and she is only 5. i dont want to be like that at all.

would it be better if she just didnt call anyone dad so i can explain the truth easier in the future?

my son at 20 called dad any man in sight
dad was just the word for ''man''
in your case it is a fluke dd is calling the man you are having a relationship with dad but it is you that are reading too much into it and, if it was me, I will put her right from the onset
he is not her dad and as you say, you do not know how long it may last.
I would allow ds to call someone dad when both understands and comes naturally and out of a real loving relashionship that may develop between the 2, not because the girl is small and doesnt know any better

Don't read too much into her calling him daddy. When my youngest first started speaking she called every man she saw "daddy" Rather embarrassing when you're getting on the bus or leaving a shop!!

Justforthisone - your son at 20 ???!!!

thank you :)

you have put my mind at rest a bit because when i think about it she does call strangers daddy too if they are male.

i will just let it come naturally

Thanks heavens it's not just my DS that does this. He has taken to calling my nephew Daddy, which i thought was because he couldn't pronounce 'Danny' properly. But I've had a plumber in the past 2 days and when he knocks on the door DS excitedly shouts 'daddy' and runs to the door!!!!! He also stands at the bottom of the stairs shouting 'daddy' to the poor plumber!! I wasn't embarrassed at all....really...honestly ;)