Hi, I need advice off some mums.

[Leeloveshisson]

Ok, now were do I start. Im a dad to my son who is 2 and half years old. Me and Mum split up over 6 months ago and the split hasnt gone to well.
I'd like to point out that im a great dad to my son, and he gets whatever he needs and I also pay maintenace to his mum. I have never been violent etc.
Anyway as the split hasnt gone to well Mum will only let me see my son on wednesday evening (overnight) and Sunday 9am - 6pm. I used to have my son every other weekend and every Weds night. Christmas i wasnt even aloud to see my son on christmas day, so as my access was for sunday, i had him 9am - 5pm boxing day.
Im taking this to court because i want fair access and i belive thats benificial to my son.
Anyway mom wants to move away (30 miles away) and for a weds night access it completly unworkable especially as I have work in the morning. (120 mile round trip there and back)
So my question is this, what is a fair way to work out access, especially as i work 9-5 weekdays.
I would love to have my son thurs night through to sunday evening, putting my son in nursery on a friday, thing is as im paying so much in maintenace i cannot afford to do this.
Would any Mums like to comment or if have any further questions let me know.

Thank you very much to the last few comments. Its good to see that there are some mothers out there with a better understanding and see things from a fathers point of view.
What right is it that the mother gets 90% of a childs contact and the father only get whats left.
Some of you are very ignorant to the fact that a child not only needs a mother but also a father too.
I hope that soon that with this new government the child welfare laws are changed to accomodate a fathers right as well as a mothers.
I came on this site for advice and was just generally fobbed off.
By the way my son is 2 and a half years old and im completly capable of looking after my son, just as much so as a mother. Its an equal rights world now so unfortunatly to the ladies that are somewhat stuck in a Maggie Thacther era get with the times and appriciate that a child not only needs a mother but a FATHER too!

As I have repeated before on here yet you keep ignoring... You should go to the Fathers need families website and/or call their helpline.

www.fnf.org.uk/?_kk=families%20need%20fathers&_kt=42ee49af-5a93-47f6-b159-b22e2cdb8801&gclid=CKig3dChyaYCFQZO4QodMUrLHg

They are an excellent organisation and a charity and will help you stay in contact with your child.

Bear in mind that father's have responsibilities just as mothers do. Neither of you have rights over your child.

The reality is that you need to look at what is best for your child, not what you want or the mother wants. At the moment it sounds like neither of you are doing that.

If you carry on with your attitude, not only to your rights and how you view women, that will potentially harm your relationship with your child and also your chances of getting good contact with them.

Join Fnf, I did and can vouch for the fact that they are an excellent organisation who's aim is to ensure that children remain in contact with their parents (both of them) and their extended family. They have members who are fathers, mothers, grandmothers, step parents, uncles & aunts etc
However they will also tell you the realities and how to deal with them. You'd do well to listen to them, even if you won't listen here.