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TheConstantGardener · 02/01/2011 19:26

Hi all

I recently became a lone parent following the death of my wife in November. I think the winter weather has been getting me down so am dreaming of summer! Of course I realise now that holidaying alone with he kids would be hard so wondered what sort of things you guys have done in the past or are considering for this year? I'd love to go abroad but of course realise this will increase the stress levels and the financial side might be tricky. All the same, would love to hear any top tips.
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onwardsandupwardsnow · 02/01/2011 19:44

I went camping with my 2.5 yr old in France last year and hopefully doing it again this year!

Drove there and had a fantastic 10 days just being together, playing and just chilling out!

If I'd thought about it too much would have been scary (had never camped, driven abroad, been on holiday on my own etc before!) so I just focused on the positives and we had a whale of a time!

Mummalish · 02/01/2011 19:45

Hello there,

I was thinking the very same thing today. Maybe we should gather a bunch of single parents and all go on holiday together, could be fun!

I am so sorry about your wife.

Have you joined any single parent groups? Which part of England are you from?

girliefriend · 02/01/2011 19:48

There is a website 'singlewithkids' that do some good holidays. We did the fun on the farm for preschoolers last year and enjoyed it!! Might be more adventerous this yr and go abroad!!

missymousie · 02/01/2011 19:53

I've always been a lp and love going on holiday with my ds 9.

Most sucessful have been either organised trips for families eg Adventure Company Exodus type tours where you sort of have to talk to people and everything is organised for you or big hotels with organised kids clubs and big pools.

Less successful have been little family hotels off the beaten track where he is less likely to find English speaking kids of about his age - or because there are no English speakers at all.

We went to Cyprus last year and had a fantastic time I was happily included with couples for meals and drinks (didn't meet any other lps though) ds is a friendly lad and was with others all day either at the hotel or if we went out on trips.

This year poss Egypt or Canary Islands or maybe back to Cyprus with me but sadly he is pretty independent and is off to Paris on his own for a week without me so am making most of it while I can

What about camping in France or Spain? Or cycling holidays/walking are quite reasonable we nearly went on one last year but had to cancel

Was a really good article in the Guardian years and years ago holidays for single parent familes about hostels for lps as well.

scoobydont · 02/01/2011 19:56

we went to majorca with Single with kids last summer and had the most amazing holiday. great people,organised trips, dinners together - you could do as much or as little as you want. and there were 2 men in our group in case you thought it was only for women. check out their website -

previous to that i had taken my kids to france (flying) to a Siblu site. A fab holiday again just different

JustForThisOne · 02/01/2011 19:58

As it is your first holiday on your own and after such a difficult time I would pick something really nice and easy.
A package holiday somewhere worm but not too hot, something like Tunisia or Greece in springtime would be great. Tunisia much much easier from a transfer point of you and many clubs have children facilities so you can have a break too
I always travel alone with my dc. Going by flight it is far the easiest way of travelling alone. You may save something more adventurous for next holiday

missymousie · 02/01/2011 19:58

How about this article

Inspired me!

JustForThisOne · 02/01/2011 19:58

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TheConstantGardener · 02/01/2011 20:53

Scooby, which lik - think it got lopped off! x

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dobiegirl · 02/01/2011 22:00

Hi there, Sorry to hear about your wife.

I have 3 kids, well one is grown up now, but we all go off on a sun holiday twice a year. It's very cheap and cheerful and we go in our own car and plan an itinerary over the internet for what we'll be doing during our weeks stay.

Last year we had a lovely week in Norfolk and also a lovely week on the Pendine Sands in Wales.

This year I'm looking at Trecco bay in Wales and somewhere in Scotland, possibly the Highlands though it tends to rain up there a lot more.

When the little ones are a bit older I'll take them abroad again like I did with my eldest once she got to about 5, however I would never ever take another baby on a plane having learnt that lesson the hard way last time.

Other posters talk about going away with specific websites dedicated to single parents, I could not enjoy that, I would feel obliged to talk to everyone and do everything all the time, Stressful but that's just me!!

Happy Holidays!!

tomhardyismydh · 02/01/2011 22:22

hi I followed you thread when your wife passed away, ot sure I commented at all, but sorry for your loss.

I went on a chalet holiday last year, left it too late to have decided anything, the accomodation was very poor and payed out alot for it. this year im going to apply for passport and go abroad, just me and dd and do a sun deal with mysis in law as my db has just left her.

like the sound of a mn single parent holiday club, sounds fab we should go for it. look around and set budget and dates.

scoobydont · 02/01/2011 22:53

@www.singlewithkids.co.uk/

scoobydont · 02/01/2011 22:55

www.singlewithkids.co.uk/

SproutsMakeTortoiseFart · 02/01/2011 23:00

I have only ventured fairly local with my 4 DC so far as we don't have passports and i don't drive.
We have been to a few different Haven sites which they enjoy and also Park holidays site which was cheaper.

scoobydont · 02/01/2011 23:04

if you look in the forum section under general advice - there is a thread where you write about your first SWK holiday - my comments are there but i am not scoobydont on there.

I should have said earlier how sorry i was about your wife. how old are your children? what part of the country are you in? -

frikadela · 02/01/2011 23:20

Might not be an option but have you considered joining up with friends and going as a group, or do as I do and cart along the grandparents.

I have been to majorca this year with DC (now 2). Just me and her... It was fab. I relaxed while she played in the sand. She even made friends with some other kids and We ended up all going off to dinner together. Now see them every other week.

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frazzle26 · 03/01/2011 15:13

My son and I went to Woolacombe with Mango last summer and we loved it. I was really nervous as I am quite a shy person but we had a fab week and I would definitely go with them again. It is more expensive to go with these sorts of companies but my personal opinion is that it is worth the extra money for the fact that you get the company and don't feel lonely while you are away.

happygolucky0 · 03/01/2011 15:28

Hello I have taken ds to DaiseyLand Paris with a coach company before. Been to Blackpool. Went to Butlins a few times. Camping trips locally often. Last year went to Surrey camping and spent time in London for the week then went to Wchywood music festial in Cheltham for the weekend as ds abit older now. Was thinking France camping this year. I found it hard work in hotels on my own for long periods of time but thats just me !Wondered if anyone can recommend anywhere for teens camping/ carvans in france? Good luck with the hoilday plans, sorry to hear you lost your wife resently.

TheConstantGardener · 03/01/2011 20:42

Anyone been to a Siblu holiday? www.siblu.com/siblu_experience/index.php They seem good and I'd imagine going with fellow lone parents would be brilliant in terms of the kids bonding and getting some free time.

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goingroundthebend4 · 04/01/2011 08:29

Hm am intrested in going with other sp.I do and have taken my dc away on their own the last few years dc are 3ds 16,14,5 and dd age 7 ds 3 age 5 does have sn which affects his moblity and his speech.We. Done haven ,centre parcs mostly but for me hardest bit is bring lonely as they are often family holidays or people take friends other family members

Has anyone been on them ,who Has mixed age range ?

Not sure how old your dc are ?.Think that tends to affect where and what kind of holiday to a point

goingroundthebend4 · 04/01/2011 08:30

Should say sorry op on losing your wife

gillybean2 · 04/01/2011 09:21

Hi ConstantGardener

I have been on lots of trips with ds. Going away is my lifesaver and is a necessity to get through the bad days and really helps to de-stress me. Didn't realise how important it was until we hadn't been away on a break for several years and then when we did go away it was amazing to be able to relax and not be rushing around doing it all without a break ever.

I see people are recommending single with kids. We went away last year to france with them. It was fine, ds enjoyed it very much. I wasn't so happy but this was because this holiday (as do many of their holidays) involved sharing our accomodation with other families and I didn't like that. It wasn't the sharing as such, it was having to clean up after someone elses children constantly in kitchen and bathroom areas while they barely lifted a finger (put bin out once I think). It became more that a bit annoying to say the least. Plus sharing chalet with smokers when I had asked to be put with non smokers.) Anyhow, it was fine overall and ds enjoyed it and made some good friends.
Most of the others were far more affluent than me too, which made it awkward re eating out etc. Had to turn down a lot of things as a result which maybe why I felt a bit of an outsider in the group too.
I looked at going on SWK's xmas party weekend, but given it was sharing a room (with up to 16 others) I decided it wasn't for me.
Pretty sure I'll get flamed for saying the above as some people here sing their praises highly, but that was my experience of them. The holiday itself was good, nice accomodation and facilities.

This year have booked to go away with mangokids again. Went to Wales with them 3 years ago and it was brilliant. This time am going to Woolacombe, Devon for teh beach holiday so glad to hear that frazzle recommends it :) We certainly enjoyed the Brecon Beacons and also went to their Xmas party that year too which was brilliant.

However one of the best group holidays we've been on was a pgl family holiday. It's not specifically aimed at lone parents but is family orientated (whatever your family is). There is lots of action, activities, things to do, other families both single and married couples, free time as well as organised activities. We went by coach so got to meet families on the way there, didn't have to worry about driving/ferry/excursions and ds quickly made friends. Only downside was that it wasn't as french as I hoped as most of the staff were english and the french chef was catering an english menu which was a bit like school dinners! But it was a brillaint holiday overall.

Did intend to go with them again last year but left it too late and they were all booked up. Can't go this year as am still recovering from an injury so wouldn't be able to do the zip wires, abseiling etc.
www.pgl.co.uk/PGLWeb/Families/centres/ChateaudeGrandeRomaine.htm

Have done a couple of other group holidays with a local group i belong too - Hemsby in Norfolk (challets) and a caravan park near Rye/Hastings. Both very enjoyable but probably wouldnt do those again unless with group - cheep and cheerful, kids loved it though.

Have been away on our own to Centre Parcs and also once with a friend and his dd. Might not be quite so easy with more than 1 child to keep your eye on in the pools etc but if they are older (teenagers) defintely an option.

Have been to california (disney/universal/knotts berry farm rollercoaster fest for ds). Did that on my own and booked it all independantly which kept the costs down and was way cheaper than the florida version. Was lovely and am hoping to be able to do that again in a couple of years time.

Have been to NZ to visit family. Did some day trips out and about though obviously easier to have a base/family to stay with. Did feel a bit tied to what they wanted to do though and had no car of my own, would hire one if did that again. But really great place to visit. Lovely country and flights not as bad as I thought as ds kept busy with his personal tv/cartoons/video games/sound asleep.

Know someone who went on a ski holiday with a different lone parent group (can't remember which now), and she and her ds had a wonderful time.

So I think the thing to do is think about what kind of holiday you like (lazy sun bathing, ski, beach, active, busy, quiet etc) and then look at how to achieve that either in a group or own your own if that's what you'd prefer.

Having done both kinds of holiday (group and on our own) I have to say they are both quite different and I enjoy both options. It's nice to have adult company and know the evenings aren't just sitting in your hotel room as kids are asleep so you're tied to that, but it's also nice to spend time just me and ds.
I thought ds prefered groups as he had company and as an only child loves to have lots of other children to play with. But he tells me he loves it when we go just us two as well as having lots of friends about for company. So we do a bit of each now.

gillybean2 · 04/01/2011 09:53

Didn't say in above but just in case you were wondering...

Both the mango holiday and the SWK one I went on had one dad at each. The mango one also had a male co-ordinator so the dad wasn't completely on his own. However neither of them seemed to mind being out numbered and were very nice guys. The xmas party had several dad's though so perhaps some hols on offer are more popular for dads than others or it may simply be that there are less single fathers out there generally.

PGL had lots of dads on it as it was family holiday rather than a lone parent one. So most were married dads but there was one lone parent dad and 3 lone parent mum's including myself. And one lady was there with her mum rather than her husband but her mum went off and did her own thing as didn't want to do the activities but did join us for paris and disneyland trips.

I know there's one dad at least coming on our wollacombe holiday as I twisted his arm persuaded him to try it!

goingroundthebend4 · 04/01/2011 10:17

hmm singke withkids holidays do you have to share accomidation?> I would rather not with 4dc have enough to fill its more having adults to talk to that i miss in the day etc

pgl holidays are out to as not fair on ds3

mangokids can i ask what are they like?

and soory op for hijacking your thread Blush