Sorry bit of a rant coming up. Just had DS1 down here after midnight again worrying like he does nearly every night. Apparently whilst at his dads he has been told a. that exH wishes DS1 was more like his brother and didn't understand what has happened. Now DS feels that his dad is upset with him for not being younger b. that I am a liar and I freuently make stuff up. This apparently was because I had told DS1 an innocent story about something he did when he was very little ExH didn't remember it the same way similar but not the same so apparently I am a liar. I have explained to DS that 1. it is not his fault that he is old enough to understand and that his dad loves him the way he is and isn't angry with him. and 2. That people often remember things slightly differently thats just the way memory works and it doesn't mean anyone is a liar.
I wish the stupid would realise what effect these things have on DS1 because as he points out he understands things but the trouble is he is still a little boy in many ways and blames himself that he is not living up to what his dad says. Rah.