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Kids gone to their dad for a week

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ChasingSquirrels · 26/12/2010 10:53

That feels like Christmas is over now - half tempted to take down all the decorations, but will probably leave them until towards the end of the week.

Had Christmas day on the 24th, so that we got an extra day yesterday. Ex has just picked them up and they are going to his house to have it all over again with his parents and GF and her daughter.

They have been with him for this long before, but I have always worked extra in order to be able to flex the time when I have them - and work is closed this week.

Over to my mum's today as her youngest brother and wife are coming for a few days, and going shopping and lunch with a friend tomorrow, have an invite for NYE and will probably do some productive things around the house. But is it going to be a quiet week.

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beingsetup · 26/12/2010 10:59

well it's a chance to clean the house and do all of the things you are putting off. I'm guessing you will be missing them alot...

but they will be back in a week.

I never get time off and would love the chance to get out and about- even getting to the shop can be a hassle sometimes with 4 little ones...

I hope you make the most of it and try something different and exciting with your new found freedom!

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ChasingSquirrels · 26/12/2010 11:04

thanks, it will feel like a long week - but I'm not feeling down about it at the moment.

I can understand how being on your own with them is difficult.

Every situation has it's pro's & con's - I hate losing them to their dad, but now I do appreciate the time to myself (I didn't at the beginning).

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dobiegirl · 26/12/2010 12:13

Count your blessings Squirrel,

I beg my ex to take the kids, all to no avail. He might watch them while I have a shower or something but even then the atmosphere is unbearable and if a row doesn't kick off naturally he'll look for an excuse to run out the door once he starts getting bored and 'hassled'.

Enjoy your break.

gillybean2 · 26/12/2010 12:33

At least you got to do your christmas day and traditions and santa thing with them. Your ex has to wait and that can't be easy with his new gf and daughter who probably won't have had to wait so although they're doing christmas it won't be quite the same. Assume you can phone or skype them while they're away?

Keep busy. Invite yourself over to a freinds. Or is there anything you've been putting off for ages that you can do with them away? Like painting their bedroom or cleaning out the kitchen cupboards or takling some paperwork? Or even just putting your feet up and reading magazines, a book or doing crosswords that you never get a chance to do when they are there!

They'll be back in no time at all, but it can't be easy being on your own this week. Am wondering how I'm gonna find things once ds is grown up and has his own family/in-laws to go too. A few years to go for that yet though.

Primroselady · 26/12/2010 21:26

I am in exactly same situation, my DS not back until 2nd Jan. I had planned to walk dog and get out and about a bit and then day before Christmas, dog ruptured a ligament and is on house arrest, and that means I am too, so I have eight days with dog and me and tv.......may go stir crazy.

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charlieliz · 27/12/2010 08:19

used to hate it when the ex had my DSs for a week (only ever in summer hols and only ever 4 times!) but now my boys refuse to go so I don't get any time at all. I used to make the most of the free time, spent the 1st couple of days vegging out reading and watching tv, then went out to do things the boys would hate, also got used to solo visits to the cinema which are ok if done in the afternoon I found. enjoy the chance to recharge as once your kids return it will be back to fullon craziness so this week is your chance to regather your energy ready for the next bit! Enjoy (smile)

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ChasingSquirrels · 27/12/2010 09:39

:)
Went to my parents yesterday afternoon as family over, and ended up sleeping there on the sofa - every other bed and fold up mattress on floor already taken.
Not sure what I am doing today - but do want to get my en-suite painted, so might go and start that now.
Then have invited parents and staying relatives over tomorrow evening.
Shopping/lunch with a friend at some point and I am going to go into work either Wed or Thu and get enough hours in to not have to go next Tue when the boys are home as they aren't back to school until Thu.

Probably won't go to the cinema - am not massive on films, would rather curl up with a good book.
Quite often go to the theatre on my own, but nothing that I fancy at the moment - have some tickets already booked for 2011 though.

Hope everyone else on their own is making the most of their time - be it productively, or just kicking back and relaxing!

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Primroselady · 27/12/2010 11:51

Well I can work from home so I too am making up hours so I can take some time off when DS back on Sunday evening.
Going to the theatre thats a good idea I will have a look at whats on in the New Year.
Makes me feel better to know I am not the only one who feels this way

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