How many nights does your child spend at Ex's?

[Mummalish]

Just interested to know what other people's arrangements are and how you feel about it.

My ds is 2 and I never thought I would ever have to spend a night away from him, but now, of course I do. So just wondering what is the norm.

I want him to maintain a relationship with his dad, but I also want him to know where home is, if that makes sense?

Will he feel abandoned by me if he goes with his dad? Probably not, but I just don't know enough about child psychology. I wish I knew what my son was feeling, he can't express himself.

Ds1 and Ds2 stay at their Dads once a week, very occasionally 2!

DD1 and DD2, never due to having to have supervised contact with their dad! In some ways it would be nice to have a child free night ever now and then but no chance of that until they are older and start going on sleep overs!

From January it will be every other weekend (Fri to Sun) and an overnight stay during the week in the holidays. I am trying hard to see it as a positive - have a crazy desire to learn to tango and speak German in my spare time! In reality I suspect I will spend quite a lot of time to start with wandering around the house missing them.

Ex-H left when the Dss were 2.11 and 1.4

He has had them for 24 hours a week ever since. They go 6pm Sat-6pm Sunday usually. They have been away Mon-Fri with him once too, and this week are going from Wed 8am to Fri 6pm.

They are now 4.4 and 2.9 and dont seem at all traumatised by it all. Ex-H now has girlfriend living with him, and they seem to be taking this in their stride too.

3 nights a week here- thurs, fri and sunday nights. They are his kids too, not just mine. It does give me a break, but then I have my two SS's 24/7 and my youngest DD2 also to look after. However, having 3 kids to look after is much easier then 5!

Ladydeedy- same here. My two SS live with us, they have no contact with their deadbeat mum let alone overnight contact! Her choice not ours.

fluffygal. it is strange isnt it? when both children lived with their mum we were so keen to see more of them (DH was only "allowed" to see them when she wanted) and then when they became teenagers she couldnt care less and wonders why they dont want to see her any more... It breaks my heart that she has been so horrible to them.