relationship over

[ChasingSquirrels]

and I am hurting so much.
and the boys are going to their dad's tonight - which is good as it means I don't have to hold it together and can cry, and bad as it means I don't have to hold it together and can cry.
Am barely holding it together anyway, ds1 went home with a friend after school so I won't see him again until tomorrow, ds2 is playing on the wii.
Have been crying on and off all day.
I do know I will get over it, I got over a 17y relationship (the boys dad - he left nearly 3 years ago) and then got into this one. I know I will feel better again one day.
Just at the moment I don't.

How long have you been seeing this one? Sorry you are going through such a hard time. It will only get better and in the meantime be kind to yourself.

Can you arrange for a gf to come round and you can talk it out.

Wish I could say or do something to take the pain away but rest assured it will go. Take some time, cry if you need to, like eve said, get a gf round with chocolate, tissues and wine ....

thanks, have text'd a couple of friends but both work late on Tue's. Will speak to them later.
Been 18mo.
I do know it will get better, I know time will heal.
Thanks

ex-h just picked boys up, cried on him, not overly helpful thing to do.

i am sorry. it is horrible when relationships break up and you have to ride the pain. I know it will get better for you but please don't get too disheartened.

Was it your choice to finish or has it come as a shock?

Hope you feel better very soon and enjoy some time on your own.

I'm so sorry...it's horrible to feel like this, and there are very few words to comfort you, is it definitely finished?

:(

You are allowed to fell crap and cry given the circumstances - don't be so hard on yourself.

Do something you wouldn't normally get the chance to do in the evening.

Personally, I'd go to the cinema but I know some people don't like going alone - I am wired like that. Or how about to the gym or swimming? Failing that, bye your fave chocolate, take out and general junk. Grab a DVD, have a long hot soak - devote this evening to YOU for a change. You deserve a little self indulgence.

thanks.
no not my choice, and yes I probably knew it was coming - but that doesn't make it any easier does it.
Going over to see a friend when she has got her kids to bed.

Just feel so lonely without him to talk to, and while I know the pain of losing him will fade with time, I need to find something to fill the loneliness, and I have no idea what.

thanks AM, just back from friend - am so lucky to have her in my life.
Early night, am exhausted.
Thanks.

it's hard, but the boys are home tonight, so you have to hold it together for them don't you.
youngest just to bed, oldest just home from cubs.
going to have another early night, didn't sleep great last night, didn't eat until tea - but at least ate tea.

Thanks for asking.

can I join your pain chasingsquirrels?
I just broke up with my bf of a year cos we didnt want the same things. so gutted. we got on so well, no arguments or anything, perfect match except we arent going in the same direction in our lives.
and it hurts SO MUCH.
:( :(

does shared pain make it better - if so then join in and party (not that I feel like partying).

It is so much harder when it isn't over because you don't want to be there any more, but because (for whatever reason) you have decided it has no future.

I started this on Tues, on the day I knew it actually was over - I still haven't accepted it.

One day at a time...