New single parent but much happier!

[Coj]

Everyone keeps feeling sorry for me & says "if there's anything I can do." Will probably be forced out my house because I can't buy husband out & have to get 2 more jobs, but on the whole I feel like I have a much better quality of life. (I do what I want to do. Much less laundry & washing up to do!) Is this strange? Separations seem to have so much doom & gloom around them. Yes I have been in tears frequently & had restful nights sleep but I can honestly look to the horizon and see adventure ahead. I had been miserable all year knowing there was no future between us. It has only been 6 weeks & dd is just 2 but doesn't seem to notice things have changed.
Am I heartless? Did anybody else feel shear relief!

no not personally but i realise that people do especially when it has been bad for a while, then its a relief when its over, but i think if it comes out of the blue and its a shock it is harder to bear, as mine was,

Although i am beginning to look at my relationship with him differently, and wondering if it was all it was cracked up to be and wondering if its the rejection thats so hard to take, having what you cant have etc....

Sorry sanch, I didn't mean to be rude saying it was alright, in my case separation is the best thing. I know in the majority of cases it is bitterly painful.
Sorry to hear you feel rejected. Do you have a good support base?

no problem, yes do have lots of support,

Glad to hear you are positive, what are you doing about the house?

Coj - the day my xp left (a Monday) I'd taken the day off work and I put on the Crystal's greatest hits, then the Ronettes, then all the Motown and Soul, and did a massive great clean-out of the whole flat. It felt like I was cleaning out years of crap - great feeling!

yes i am going to try the clearing out, i have taken down photos, need to move bedroom round at the weekend when he has dd

Hse- not sure, really want to stay as DD has lovely bedroom, built a playhouse in garden. If I buy a 2 bed place non of my furniture will fit & I will have to sell & buy again. People say get a lodger-easier said than done with a 2 yr old. It would have to be friend of a friend that kept a low profile & quiet at night.
When did you lot take your wedding rings off?

I didn't want people to know I'd split up from him immediately at work, so didn't take engagement ring off. Then found I was pregnant and that was a good excuse to take it off - pretended my fingers were swollen.

So you found out you were pregnant after you separated.
Would feel strange taking it off, may transfer wedding ring onto other hand. My mum didn't for 14 yrs. No chance of meeting anyone else wearing it.