Am I really odd?

[Tiddlybear]

On my own for 2.5 years - still single. No dates ( I haven't tried and don't advertise that I am single, although don't hide it either)I have been intermittantly bothered but ATM am very busy with kids, work, friends that I really am not bothered. Only get about 1 night fortnight away from dc so not that much.

Ex who I am very glad to be separated from as abusive etc has girlfriend expecting baby soon. He is convinced that I am devastated and keeps trying not to get us to meet to "protect" in case I am can't cope etc - I think he genuinely doesn't beleive that I am not jealous or sad about his new relationship ( I feel sorry for her from what dc's say she is nice and I know what is ahead of her unless ex has turned over new leaf)

Am I weird or hiding from real life by not seeking out a new relationship? I am finding ex's behaviour a bit annoying now.

Not weird at all Tiddlybear!

I've been on my own for more than four years and haven't made any effort to start a new relationship. I'm quite open to the idea a relationship if it should happen, but I'm not actively pursuing it.

So no, not weird at all.

Not weird.

I don't really care these days. Obv good to have good friends around to talk to once in a while, etc but really, relationships are just too complicated.

Sex is nice once in a while as well, but it isn't something I'd go looking for. I just accept graciously when offered

Btw your ex sounds delightful..well done for getting rid!

sounds to me like you're coping very well - good for you not to give a fig what he's up to

That makes me feel a bit better- I know I will want a mew relationship at some stage but happy as I am
just now. He feels to think I won't cope if see them together!

no. but your ex sounds weird is after 2.5 years he is still trying to control part of your life. you're well rid.

no not weired at all feel the same tbh.

i met someone a few weeks ago, seen him twice but cant be bothered to see him this weekend and getting irritated by his daily texts. he is so lovely, and i like him loads but i love that when single you dont have to accomodate someonelse.

sounds like you are happy and fullfilled.

Not strange at all! I feel the same, am really enjoying focusing on myself and ds and not having to accomadate anyone else.

Have you considered the idea that your ex oesn't want you to meet his girlfriend due to his own agenda? He is probably worried what you will say to her that may uncover him lying about things or show him in a negative light. Just ignore him and don't rise to him. I'm in a very similar position and feel the same about ex's new fiance, feel sorry for her and ex is in no hurry to introduce us (shocking).