Tonights the night.. wish me luck

[QueenandKingMum]

POF guy (Jacqui, NOT hairychest!), we're meeting for a coffee and a chat. Perhaps a wander around town, and maybe dinner. Can't have a late one as my 14 year old is home waiting for me..

Not really into it, but nothing ventured right?

Good luck :)

how did it go then?

I don't think she's gone yet...
Good luck when you do :)

Oh dear... Met for afternoon coffee and a wander. Fine to chat to, do have a lot in common but so not my type. He's quite keen for another but..no..

Oh well

And how do I let him down gently? I think he's not had much luck romantically..

I say give him another chance. I had a blind date though we had spoken. No initial attraction but he was a lovely guy. He asked me out and I said yes bur I still wasn't sure. We have now been together for nearly 16 years .

Even if you aren't that keen?

Is there anything you liked about him?

I didn't fancy him but he was a lovely guy. A few days later he kissed me and that was that. Done for .

So what type is he? If he's mine you could send him my way instead

bet it was hairy guy .

Jaqui! Just a bit geeky, you know? Nothing wrong with him, just not my type, reserved..

Had a text saying he enjoyed today band looking forward to next time.. What do I say?!

go and have fun

good luck

go with your gut feeling, if there is a glimmer then go for it, or move on if not but I think you get an inkling if somethings not right.

You know if it's not right and there isn't just that 'click' there. I've had dates where I've come away thinking 'hmmm' maybe if i just go out with him again then I might feel differently...I've never have done!!

Thats the thing, we had loads in common but no spark whatsoever. For me, anyway. Him, definitely yes. I've yet to reply to his text. How do I let him down gently? He's a nice guy, but just not interested.

Don't agonise over it, it's the reality of dating, and internet dating in particular. Just say that you enjoyed meeting him and thanks for drinks/dinner whatever but that you don't want to pursue a relationship.

If you definitely are not interested in giving it another go tell him. If you are willing to see, then accept his invite.

On our second date I was thinking it was a mistake as I still didn't fancy him. I am so glad I saw him again because he turned out to be a lovely lovely guy and it very sexy .

Good luck with whatever you decide.

I went out with a guy that I met on a dating website last year for 8 months that I didn't have an initial spark with. OK it didn't work out in the end but we had lots of fun and he was a lovely guy. Might be worth one more go :-)

You could let him down gently by saying that you enjoyed meeting him but that you've realised you aren't ready for a relationship just yet. Rather than just thanks but no thanks. But I'm the world's worst dater so probably don't listen to me

QueenandKing, what happened in the end?