AIBU to think this is ALL wrong?

[HappyWithLife]

I recently got in touch with an ex boyfriend, because I had some news which concerned him, and we had parted on ok terms so I sent him a quick e mail telling him, and also bits about what had been happening in our lives etc...general chit chat really.

Anyway, he text back and one of the first things he said was 'how are your huge t**s and are they missing me?' . I ignored this completely, but throughout the day he sent several texts asking for explicit photos of me, had I um...pleasured myself recently... again and other such stuff. Granted, our relationship had been intense and was very sexual and I did really love the bloke, but this was after a long time apart and I found it actually made my skin crawl.

He is in his 40s, so it's not like he's an overexcited teenager.

AIBU?

Yeugh
Pass his details onto the police they will ring him up and 'ave a word.
Totally wrong!

He could have thought you were after a reunion? If you have of, the texts would probably have been welcomed?

Clear text stating 'Stop sending me explicit texts, I do not want that type of relationship with you and if you don't I will block your number'.

If doesn't stop, do as mama12 says and report him

Is it at all possible that these messages aren't from him, could is be some mischievous person replying on 'his behalf' ?

YANBU.

Thats wrong very very wrong... as mamas12 says report him, you contacted him in a friendly manner to pass on some news and Id guess catch up - because you'd parted on friendly enough terms, so his response is way way way out of line and inappropriate, as a rule, I find unless you end an email 'hey fancy a shag for old times sake' the ressponse should be 'thanks for letting me know, glad your keeping well I've been xyz... catch you around sometime..

I'd just ignore him TBH. Stupid twat isn't worth getting in a lather over.

readywithwellies...think he did think I wanted a reunion, but he knows how uncomfortable that kind of thing makes me. I'm not a prude by any means, far from it, but the thought of sending the kind of photos he wants has always made me cringe and he knows it. He used to use the line 'if you love me you will'. He called and then spent all the time going on about how I was in the wrong when we were together, how I wasn't saying/doing the right things when we were together...made me feel like an emotionless/ cold hearted btch even though anyone who knows me knows I am as soft as s*t, wear my heart on my sleeve etc. He was almost obsessed (one of the reasons we split...he made me panic and feel trapped) and used to say things like we should make a suicide pact...if one of us dies the other one should commit suicide.
jonesy...no it was definately him.

You've passed on the news, I have no idea why you'd want to still be in contact with this man. Delete and block, he sounds super-creepy.

emmalou...absolutely, that's what I thought. Just a quick hello and how are you, how are the kids kind of thing.
thenightsky I'm not getting in a lather over him, but he has this knack of making me question myself. He refers back to abuse me and the kids suffered years ago at the hands of ExH, and says 'you're acting like this because of things in your past', when I'm not, I'm acting like it because he is trying to pressure me into doing things I don't want to do!

Sue...I just had some relevant news that I needed to give to him, I thought (given that we are both adults in our 40s) that I could do that and that would be the end of it.

He sounds like a loon. I would text him and tell him to stop txting you and then block his number

He used to want us to cut ourselves and then mix blood...kind of blood brother type thing . Needless to say I declined his kind offer. My God, I am such a weirdo magnet!

No, I meant that now you've passed on the news you should delete him. He obviously can't be normal with you, even at his age

elastamum, how do you block numbers on a mobile? Luckily he doesn't have my home number.

Are you still in touch?
What did you reply when he said those things?

(He sounds an utter creep btw, you did well to get shot of him)

Limez...when he said the stuff while we were together (suicide pact etc) or the stuff in the texts about photos?

In fact, on both counts I just pointedly ignored them. I'm a total wuss and hate confrontation.

Because I ignored him I've not had a call or text since Wed, so hopefully he'll not be in touch again.

Oh he sounds just precious... a suicide pact wtf

block his number, mark his email as spam, and if you see him in the street, turn for the hills and runrunrun.. sweet lord the mans a nutjob.

I have just checked...I can't bar his number because I'm on o2 and it can't be done apparently. I can't change my number because it's also my work number and I've just had business cards printed.
Luckily, I live a long way from him so not likely to bump into him unless he comes here specifically to see me; it's a good few hours drive.

Change his name in your phone to 'its that massive wanker' then if you get a text - you'll know who its from an that you can ignore it, and if you have the kind of handset taht has the option to say the callers name.. well it'll alert and amuse you greatly...

My phone contacts look like the work of a lunatic..