Getting extra support

[PenguinJunk]

Firstly, I'll admit that I am not strictly a lone parent. My partner comes home most weekends so usually I only do 4 or 5 (sometimes 12) days on my own with my 17-month-old. However, I felt this forum was perhaps the most appropriate - the most likely to have needed what I am looking for - I'm looking for some family support.

Its been a lonely time since my son way born, but it is getting easier. Friends helped at first but have their own lives. My partner's parents are no longer with us and mine are fairly infirm and so are only able to help very occasionally. Often, i have dreamed of having someone that I could call on for company and general help around the house.

I've looked online for 'adopt-a-grandparent' services but these don't really seem to be operating. Many seem to be simply about socialising when, in fact I feel I need practical help.

I suppose what I am actually looking for is a nanny-cleaner-shoulder-advisor. I am even willing to pay something for this service but just don't know where I'd find it.

Does anyone know of a service? In particular, I'm in Southampton.

Try www.dcsf.gov.uk/everychildmatters/earlyyears/surestart/whatsurestartdoes/
If you put in Southampton it says there are 7 within 5 miles.

Or you must have a play group or gymborie or such near you. Ask your health visitor or pop into the nearest primary school and ask them if they have any free mags that come out with local stuff for children. Can't remember what ours is called but sch hands it out and it's likely your area has their own.

If you want a cleaner or a nanny and can afford it why not look locally. If you're going to be there while they clean then stick an advert up in your local shop or school. Nanny you can find on here in the relevant section, or approach your nearest training college for one that might want work experience or a job after qualifying.

I've been lonely for 12 years now since ds was born. No Surestart back then and he's too old for me to go along now. Plus rural area with almost no options. Would love a cleaner but I was paying mine more than I earnt per hour so decided to take the time off work instead.

Thankyou Gillybean. I'm aware of Sure Start - in fact I run a group for them as I became so reliant on their groups. however, its the mornings, evenings and weekends that I need something extra, or if I am ill.

I will look into nannys, but thought they are really for the child, not the parent. I don't really need a cleaner because my standards are quite low but having someone to fall back on when it all gets too much would be great.

I really don't know how lone parents manage and in rural areas it must be even worse. We've set up a crazy society here haven't we?

Really, i suppose I am looking for a friend who doesn't have their own young family to worry about but had an understanding of children.

rent a room to a lodger/student? in exchange for compamny....choose someone that fits your criteria?