Oh God I'm obsessing like a teenager - stop me!!

[Leslaki]

Basically I've moved back to my home area and am back in touch through FB with some old school frinds. One of them is someone i used to fancy when I was at school - really nice guy and still very good looking. He contacted me on FB a few years ago and we do banter/comment etc on each others FV - not all the time but now and again. BUt I'm starting to obsess about him and want to see him!! I'm a LP with DC and a bit overweight he's single (was in a relationship till early summer this year) and we're in our 40s. I feel ridiculous to be feeling like this cos I haven't seen him in RL for about 20 years. Ho can I stop thinking about him like this? Feel like I'm 15 again!! Been on my own for years and am now ready to meet someone but scared to do/say anything to him. Dabbled in internet dating but nothing came of it - not really me!

Go for it! what have you got to lose? it's not as though he's a colleague who you'll bump into etc. He may be feeling the same way! start making more flirtatious comments and see if he responds.

Aaarggghhhh!!! But I can't see whyy he's be interested in me!! Why am I acting like this?!!

if you really are worried that you're obsessing, try to remember that he is just an ordinary mortal and has just as many flaws as anyone else! try not to pin all your hopes on him; even if things do work out in your favour it wont work if you feel he is so much better than you.
perhaps you need to do something positive to improve your self esteem, eg take up a sport. then if you do end up getting in touch you have something to talk about that could be a mutual interest.

I know he's an ordinary mortal etc etc - maybe I just need a man - a decent one!! Yes, you're right, I do need to improve my self esteem, spent too many years being told I'm fat, ugly and useless by Xprat - had a tought few years so I need to do something about it rather than live in a dream world!! God I'll be so embrarassed if I ever meet him in RL now ! thanks for your help and wise words stinky!!

good luck!
stinky x