Ok, this POF Guy..

[crace]

Not MrHairyChested.. the one I was meant to meet on Saturday. I've (after much back and forth) suggested we meet for a coffee and go from there. He's so, great, so when and where.

What's the issue? The issue is that he's not made one "decision" other than the cinema at the very very start. He lives in the big town we are meeting, I don't and I have no idea what is good and where to meet. It seems like I need to do all the arrangements.

Doesn't this sound a bit like too much hard work? Or am I over thinking it.

To be fair, that would put me off too. I like a man with a plan.

just have a coffee then go from there. I think your brave to go out a meet men as i dont have the guts!!! hope you have a nice time ... whatever you do.

Exactly, me too. Suppose it can't hurt but I am a bit bored of the chasing and planning...

It depends. Am meeting a man for a first date tomorrow and he said to me, why dont you pick somewhere you like and will feel comfortable and I will drive over to you. I thought that was really nice. On the other hand if it was over his way I would expect him to pick somewhere nice. That said the best first date I had was in a right dump as the place he had chosen was shut - food was terrible, but we had a great time. IME though if you are making all the running then you are probably wasting your time in the long run. If he isnt making some effort he probably isnt that interested

Just tell him you don't know the area and can he suggest somewhere eg a coffee shop in a department store or near the station so it's easy for you to find. If he can't be bothered, don't bother!

My ex was like this and it used to drive me crazy!
Personally I like a man who can make decisions but it's prob a bit too early to judge yet.
Just meet up and then see how u feel

I am losing interest. Will see if he comes back but I am not chasing it. If he's like this, how's he going to be in other ways..?

My DP made me make the decisions when we first met. I just asked him why this was. He said that he wanted me to feel comfortable with what was happening. SO could this be it?

Go for the coffee and then see what happens. Most people aren't exciting and even if they are, it wears off. I would rather someone who cares about me.

bet it is hairychest...(sniggers). What did I miss, why didn't you meet on Saturday?

Ok, guys you've given me lots to think about.

Jacqui! I am meant to meet him on Saturday...

ah got you now, thought you meant last Saturday.

Last thing you want is another 'child' to organise, maybe wait and see if he contacts you this week. Anyway, there's always mrhairy to fall back on . His photo keeps coming up on my 'viewed me' .

(wolf whistle) Zexy, no?

definitely no!!