sex with someone new after birth of baby

[luceeloo]

Ok I had a baby 5 months ago, very rough birth, required a restitch. All healed well and am single and not yet remotely ready to sleep with anyone new. But the thought TERRIFIES me. At least if I was still with ex (prize twat) he'd understand what I've been through physically but new guy would be a quite a passion killer to be like "right, I had to have my fanny sewn up so can you bare with me"

I know it's a cliche but if he's a decent bloke, he really will understand. If he doesn't then he's not good enough for you :)

I know. I'm with someone new and we've done the deed and I still haven't gotten around to mentioning it yet... It's a bit late now, perhaps.
If it's causing you concern, any decent bloke will understand. But I have NO IDEA how, where, when etc you're supposed to find the time to have that conversation. Let me know if you work that one out :(

Umm, may be too graphic, sorry if any offense taken, but what about a Rabbit? Would this give you an idea of how things are down there?

Wellies - my consultant suggested that I was mortified! But all makes sense. Ahh! I know I'm physically and anatomically fine had a zillion post op checks but really scared of stitches popping and -tmi- not being able to be ahem creative with positions etc. Dear god this is so embarrassing! I'm not with anyone now but worried for the future. Irrational?

5 months really isn't that long. I think it took me around 18 months (when my period came back and I talked myself into trying a mooncup!) to feel confident that everything had healed etc properly - was not having sex with XP at the time thankfully - and I had a fairly minor tear. You will feel alright about it in time, I promise. If you are worried it isn't healing properly though you could ask your GP to check it over.

As for positions etc if you take things slowly there's no reason why you shouldn't be able to enjoy different positions anyway. Again it's just time - don't worry, it's going to be fine :)

Took me nearly a year (lack of opportunity with small baby lol) and it was fine, didn't even think to mention I was like a patchwork quilt, oh and bought my first rabbit a few months before that, highly recommended!

I had sitches and have a scar down there and met a new man at 10mths it was never mentioned - i was more worried about leaking milk at the time- if the guy is right it wont matter.