can anyone relate to this, re H grammar

[single1ds]

Been spilt up now for 16 months. go through periods of on the verge of divorcing him then periods of missing him.
put my rings on last night and had a few tears :-(
dont think i can get back with him though as have this huge problem with his grammar, it is really doing my head in and i cant just laugh it off or accept it is his accent.
he is from Wales. he keep saying ds to put thins "by" there. and how he is "in" work (i would say at work), the latest is he is "on" training. i would just saying, i am doing training course. it drives me mad. when we were together i mentioned it but he has never adjusted it, it just isnt good english is it? more frustraing ds is starting with it aswell. Am i being unreasonable? Is it just how people from Wales speak or is it it just him? he is very intelligent btw. has a very well paid job etc.

I'm going to take the linguistics angle on this...

Preposition use is changing all the time, and it's actually very difficult to get the hang of as a non-native speaker (notice how non-Brits who learn English often get these wrong). So different cultural and geographical patterns of use develop. So you're being an imperialist dog (in Bill Bryson's words) by insisting his Welsh speech patterns are inferior to yours especially if it doesn't actually affect your understanding of what he says, which it clearly doesn't.

In other words, if it's not working for you, it's not working, but don't make your break-up about preposition use! Apart from anything else, you're quite likely to have the same issues with any future partner's pattern of speech...

Jeez, that is awful. At least ExH only battered me and the children. If he'd spoken with a Welsh accent...now that would have been REAL abuse.

Also, anyone starting down the 'it's not good English' route is advised to double check that they don't live in a glass house before they start throwing stones. Most of us fall short of perfect English use at some time or other.

Sparklerz

at sparklerz.

OP YABU isn't it?

I work with two people from the black country or 'yam yams' as they are known 'where's yam goin' 'to them buildings, borrow me a tenna duck'

When they speak to each other it's a grammar free zone.

ho much housework did he do?

Are you calling the OP a 'ho' that's a bit harsh

OP you sound crazy. It's just a different way of speaking and it is not bad grammar. you were with a Welshman, you made a child with him, get over it!

Don't be a knob.

You know this really don't you, but when you loved him you didn't mind the way he spoke. Now you don't love him it annoys you. So you don't love him and you should stay apart.

Did he say strange things like..."Who's coats that jacket?" and "I loves you, I do"

Understandable, really OP

I had a friend who finished with a chap because he stumbled walking up a hill ffs! And she was most upset as he had a really posh sounding surname - he just didn't cut the mustard in his walking boots. He wasn't Welsh though thank goodness.

U ane't bein unreeznbul, no way how culd i eva mary a men whoo ad bad grammer!

Well, ok, maybe you're being massively unreasonable and a hypocrite. But if bad grammar is the biggest of his problems, feel free to send him to me instead while you look for Prince Grammaring.

Also am I the only person in the world who finds Welsh accents (in men) attractive, actually?

I used to til there was Gavin Henson overkill on telly. It did my head in that did!

Trilobite, you are not alone.

and lol at 'Prince Grammaring'

Welsh accent?

Sparklez - the Black Country? What about the Green Green Grass of Home?

I say "in" work and "on" a training course. Do you think that could be why I'm now single