Have you seen/visited exs new home ?

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H left me and 2DCs and has moved into a flat a few weeks ago which us apparently a ten minute walk away.DD1 3 and a half) has spent some time there on his weekends and when he picks her up from childcare and seems to be quite happy there so she is now ready to stay overnight there I think.

We also have a four month old DS who I ambreastfeeding so access for him is a bit more tricky.Anyway I just wondered if it's the done thing to ask to see this flat if both very young children are to spend time there.he is generally responsible and a good Dad-but was just a crap husband.

At this stage I don't even have his address-have asked him twice and have been fobbed off with 'err not sure of postcode-I'll email it to you' and 'oh yeah I forgot-I'll text it later'.not sure if heis justbei g crap or if there is a bigger story here.maybe part of me just wants to know but anyway the main issue here is that if (particularly a v young baby who he has never lived with) they are both going to be staying there do I have a right to see it,check it's safe etc or is it none of my business?

By law you are entitled to his address and a contact number but not to visit the house. If there are grounds that he is/house is unsuitable then its up to a third party (cafcass / ss) to check not you. Been through this with DP's ex wife and out home when we was in court and she was told by the judge not to be rediculous.

If that sounds blunt sorry its not meant to be

You have the right to know where they are staying, not to inspect. Unless he had a history of neglecting your DCs, there's no need surely?

My first thought is that he's living with another woman though tbh.

Legally he has to provide you with the address, so I've been told by a solicitor, anyway.

Hi,
As others say - you can have his address - whyy not offer to collect DC when tey next visit. It best that this doesn't become an issue between you although my ex was a bit like this. He seemed to resent giving me information as if I was trying to track him..just a guy thing to retain independence. I think most PWC can really appreciate what it feels like to be the NRP - having to ask for access/contact which must feel like the mum is in control.

If your ex is a good dad then you should not have concerns. I tended to offer assistance to my ex - just making sure he had everything he needed to be a dad at his new place (often us mums can get access to surplus nursery stuff that dads won't). Anything that helps him to be a good dad will help your children in the long run.