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Avoiding unsuitable men?

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Hannispan · 29/10/2010 12:02

I am about to venture into the world of online dating (tho having scrolled through the fit and intresting thread i'm not sure if i have the energy for all the drama :-) ) but a friend of mine is putting me off with horror stories about child peadophilies (not sure of spelling) who target single mums thro dating sites? While I'm guessing this is probably an urban myth i was wondering what 'warning signs' you would look for? Only ever dated exp so have no idea what counts as normal for a bloke Grin thanks

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readywithwellies · 29/10/2010 14:38

Hi,

Don't put pictures of you up with your children (pet hate of mine)

Do not give any details about your children -geniune people will understand

Avoid anyone who suggests bringing dcs on dates

Avoid discussing dcs in profile or in chat

You can't protect yourself from paedophiles really, they are not branded. You just have to use your instincts and if it seems unusual, you can alwaays put it to the Mumsnet vote! Grin

LadyFantastic · 29/10/2010 14:40

How the hell can you tell? If they like kids it will be a good thing.

What can you do except protect your children and keep your eyes wide open?

benbon · 02/11/2010 21:23

i had a message from someone on POF the otherday and all he said was hi how old are your kids and whats their names.

needless to say did not reply to his message..

elastamum · 02/11/2010 22:36

Have been internet dating for a while and never met anyone dodgy yet. As above. Dont post pictures or give out details of your kids to anyone you havent met. Go with your gut feel. Dont ever meet anyone you have reservations of any sort about.

IMO you are far more likely to meet men who are either a bit dull or just looking for a shag than anything more sinister Shock

Asteria · 04/11/2010 13:25

I have had lots of fun on dating websites - and some total disasters! The best thing to do is to trust your instincts and keep DC's out of the equation until it is a really serious relationship. Having been a single parent since my DS was 3 months old (abusive relationship) I have 8 years of the dating minefield and find it far easier to keep DS completely away for as long as possible - there is no point confusing them. Good luck though

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