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Separated permantly - when do you stop wearing your wedding / engagment rings?

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Boobalina · 28/10/2010 16:16

Me and H split up 2 months ago and he moved out permantly 4 weeks ago. It's all mutal and amicable(ish) for the kids.

We dont want to resolve it or get back together, ever so are going to do the 2 year separation and then get divorced.

So, yesterday at work a male collegue asked me if we are never getting back together and live separately, why still wear my rings?

He has an interesting point - what did you all do?!

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smokinpumpkins · 30/10/2010 10:05

I did buy myself a different ring for a few weeks though, as it felt weird wearing nothing. Soon felt normal to have no ring.

Every now and then I go to play with them - like when driving, I used to twirl them when changed gear - but those times are becoming fewer.

mamayaya · 31/10/2010 21:42

I took mine off straight away. But have worn my engagement ring on my right hand since. It felt weird at first. But I'm ok with it now.

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Boobalina · 01/11/2010 12:19

As its seen by some cultures as New Years Day today (Divali, pagans) I was in the bath before work and I thought, sod it - get it off now and move on. So I did!

My finger is very withered so hopefully it will return to its old shape again!

It does feel a bit weird, but psychologically I feel a bit better, have made the break now.

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Ladybird333 · 03/09/2016 10:53

I took mine off about three weeks after we split up and he moved out. I left them on for the kids really and was expecting to take them off when he next really pissed me off. The first two weeks were horrendous and I was terrified, but during the third week he calmed down a bit and accepted that it was over. The texts became more civil and he started talking about us both moving on and it not being too late to find someone else. That's when I took my rings off. When he'd accepted it.

aleC4 · 03/09/2016 20:52

I took mine off the day after he left. I felt very strange without it as I often fiddled with it.
My mum gave me a lovely ring that my dad gave her to wear instead. It is too small for her now and I love wearing it.
My rings are still on my bedside table at the moment but I don't know what I will do with them.

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