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Letter proposing overnight contact

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Lurpak · 27/10/2010 17:33

Not sure if this is the best place to post this, but hoping for some advice about my response to a letter received from my XH solicitor last week requesting regular overnight visits

I'm hoping if I copy and paste my response there is enough info on there for you to get a good enough idea of the back story.

Here it is:

"I have received your letter regarding contact arrangements for [child]. As explained on many previous occasions, I do not think overnight contact is appropriate until regular day contact has be established and sustained over a period of time. I feel this is in [child?s] best interests. As there has been very minimal and sporadic contact this entire year I don?t think it is appropriate to begin overnight stays yet.

I am willing to make [child] available for contact at the following dates and times:

Saturday 6th November 9am ? 6pm
Saturday 20th November 9am - 6pm
Thursday 25th November 3pm ? 6pm
Saturday 4th December 9am ? 6pm
Thursday 16th December 3pm ? 6pm
Saturday 18th December 9am ? 6pm
Thursday 23rd December 9am ? 6pm

If these arrangements are kept to, and no cancellations made then I am willing to discuss an increase in contact and contact over Christmas.
As yet you have not proved to be reliable, contact has been re-arranged and cancelled at short notice, and the recent let down in promised monies only further proves your unreliability. I also requested that [child] not be introduced to your girlfriend too soon. I feel it is crucial that [chil] has a chance to rebuild his relationship with you before encountering new ones, and was disappointed that you ignored my request.

For these reasons, and the lack of recent contact, I am not willing to agree to any more contact than what is stated above. I hope you can understand my reasoning, and I hope regular contact can finally be established after 5 years of trying.

I will leave you to decide what you think the best course of action is regarding maintenance. I trust you will do the right thing."

I just need to know if this response is fair?

TIA

OP posts:
Tablefor6 · 28/10/2010 11:17

gillybean2 your letter writing skills are great! Think I need your help too :)

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