question or advice about dating...just how do you fit it in and is it a chore

[allhallowsandwine]

im single parent and have over past four years dated a couple of guys both very short lasting relationships I have been totaly single without any relationship or sex for over a year and quite frankly bitting at the bullet for a shag....im so sexually frustrated. I have been on pof on and off but have dated one person a couple of times but did not really fancy him and find the whole dating thing a chore and most blokes on the sites a total bore. my question is how do you keep time aside to go out and how on earth do you meet someone? i dont have many babysitters or much money either. I so f'n well need sex.

I took a male friend along with me once, we walked into the pub together, I clocked my 'date', waved to him, went to the bar with my friend, orered a drink, then went and chatted with my 'date', while my friend stayed at the bar.

the guy didn't mind at all, as he turned out to be a decent fellow who was glad that I was sensible and safe. Nothing ever happened because he didn't do it for me but I knew he was a decent guy.

ladies, thank you so much for that. It would seem that I am pretty up to scratch from your replies, as I do delete the text speakers, the I'm probably too good for you types, so I am feeling quite hopeful.

I have stepped out of my comfort zone and messaged a couple of potentials [hgrin].

guys thanks so much. I have invited a friend round for a few drinks friday night, incidently someone i have had a fling with in the past.

i think im gona give pof another go aswell for the future. I actualy didnt think i wanted a relationship but maybe its not just the sex i need maybe i need some attention to boost me. any other Free sites anyone can recomend?

jaquichan wish you luck and lets keep coming back to this thread and share our updates.

pinkice queen and overmydeadbody thanks for the advice and insight, I was more worried about the moral dilema but you have made me realise in a way that there is no moral dilema so thanks for that you have given me the courage to make a date for friday

allhallows, I have also come round to your way of thinking re the attention/affection and obviously not forgetting the sex .

So, MrFridayNight, you had a fling before, is he the man for the deed or perhaps more?

tbh he is just the deed. i like him and trust him, dont fancy him much or see him as relationship material, but he is a good friend. had a drunken fling or 2 in the past and so beit. see what happens prob wont even get my endaway and will have had a good night with a nice man and if i do then thats a bonus. but will let u know.

i went on pof tonight so see if i get any messages in the next few days. have you been on pof jaquichan?

hi allhallows, well it does sound as though you will have a good evening if nothing else . Do you think he will be expecting something else though?

Yes, on PoF, quite a few messages, as always some wallys, but hey, got to start somewhere.

Glad to be of assistance. At the end of the day, it's all about what you actually want from these people. If it's just the sex, be prepared for other people to be as ruthless/honest as yourselves. If it's a relationship you are after, you/they should be in no particular hurry to meet up, get to know each other first and enjoy the thrill of the journey without rushing to the end destination :) enjoy friday night allhallowsandine.

ANother way of getting no-strings sex is to check out a swingers' club - they are generally safe, friendly places with people who know what they are there for.