Feel uncomfotable about this - am I just being precious

[Tiddlybear]

Have 2 ds with ex. He is due new baby with girlfriend in January.
Ex has never had dc for holidays, never takes AL during school holidays and never taken them away anywhere since we split 2.5 years ago. Contact is improving though and over the last couple of months has had then every other weekend.

Due to the nature of his work he cant be flexible with paternity leave and will have to book 2 fixed weeks ( but in reality it will be possible at the time to be more flexible apart from 2-3 short spells each week) He wants to use parental leave from existing dc to improve this time.
I feel angry on behalf of my dc but I suppose there is nothing I can (or should) do about this - expect rant!

How do you know this?
And have you suggested he have them during at least some of the holidays?

The system allows him to do this, but I can see how you feel.
Since contact is improving, I would swallow it. If you cause a fuss, the relationship between your dcs and ex may suffer and if he is having them every other weekend, this is quite good.
I personally would brace for January, wouldn't surprise me if he reduces access then once the baby arrives and the less excuse you give him to do this, the better. At least you can look you dcs in the eye and know you didn't get in the way of their relationship with their father.

I know this because he told me tht he had been advised to do this to improve his paternity leave. It is during the school term so cannot have the dcs.
I think I do just have to accept it as things are otherwise better at the moment.
It is his right, I suggested that he make up the time when his existing dc require it (sick leave, holiday help etc)

He has to tell me because he needed the dxs
birth certificates and I had them.
I suppose in nuclear family all
paternal leave would go into the pot.
I suppose it is up to him

• probably a minor thing in the grand scheme of things.