I have recently separated from my H. He moved out at the beginning of September. He was abusive to me in an emotional/financial/psychological sense such as contributing nothing to family life but constantly critising me, making financial decisions without discussing it or informing me (and getting us into debt), telling me I had let myself go and really aged etc etc.
As he had no relationship in real terms with our children and is now having access to the children twice a week, he is now treating the children in a similar was. i.e. DC3 is late to potty train he tells him how disgusting he/it is and puts the nappies right in his face, really shouting at DC1 because he cannot tie his shoe laces (first pair of lace up shoes and had them for a week). The DC are 9, 6 and 3 and whilst he will reheat a dinner I have prepared he will not prepare any food for them himself so they are raiding the cupboards for stuff they can feed themselves but not eating proper meals otherwise under his care. He has also left them for 10 mins whilst he went to get a takeaway on one occasion that I know of.
I have addressed the issue each time but after 8 weeks of bringing up things after every visit he has done wrong in my opinion, I am now of the opinion that he cannot actually look after them. He is simply incapable of being an unsupervised caregiver.
WTF do I do? I have booked to see a solicitor a week on Wednesday to start divorce proceedings. I suggested to him that he read up about parenting and what constitutes abuse in the meantime. Lead balloon springs to mind....