Citing Unreasonable behaviour

[crace]

I will go and do a search but I have googled to death. My husband told me a month ago that he doesn't love me, no longer wants to live with me and be married to me.

Fine. I am ready to file under unreasonable behaviour but how to do I write those reasons into a petition?

Things are extremely amicable and I want it to stay that way, so can't do anything too horrid but need it to be accepted. I am not staying married for 2 years. I am over this.

We are doing the ground work ourselves and getting settlements (children etc) reviewed by solicitors..

Any ideas?

Could you ask your ex what he would be prepared for you to say? That would keep it amicable or you could ask the solicitor, you can cite nagging etc as far as I can remember.

Good idea, we are sitting down to review the Statement of.. whatever for the children so can just write this together too.

Thx

I didn't think you had to state anything nowadays. I'm pretty certain I didn't do anything like that.

You must come up with reasons why his behaviour was such that you cannot reasonably be expected to live with him. Make it too nice and it might not proceed. Try to come up with something eg lack of affection, too much time at work, didn't help with kids/house etc.

wikivorce is a great web site for anyone knee deep in legal stuff re divorce.

I was thinking along those lines - I hate writing this stuff out, but it's basically a few reasons of being "unreasonable" (which he isn't, we just don't want to be married) and an example of how? Will hit Wikivorce for some tips, thanks for that.

I phoned H and he agreed to let me file, and under the reason of unreasonable behaviour and doesn't care about the reasons. So, all that worry for nothing.

Now onto the fun stuff of splitting time and holidays with the children. I want to get it all down on paper while we are still amicable!

When do we have to list how we split belongings or does the court not care about that? I didn't see it on the D8 Petition. We will have no money to split after the sale of the house as that will cover the mortgage and debts with nothing extra. So it's really very straight forward - just need to do the petition, statement of agreement?

Off to Wikivorce!

I did the divorce myself and confirm wikivorce a good source of info.

my reasons were things like -

lack of communication; then list a couple of examples - ie mine where taking out loans/adding to mortgage without telling me. going on holiday without telling me or taking me with him

lack of affection - example; refusing to kiss, hold hands or lack of sex.

causing embarrassment/humiliation - calling me an arsehole at sisters wedding/telling me I was stupid in front of dcs/strangers.

if he agrees, you could 'adapt' similar reasons?

i didn't do a split of finances/belongings, we both got an hours advice each from a solicitor to ensure fair and therefore i just filled in the petition and statement of agreement.

i found the staff i got the paperwork from at court very helpful too

I cited:

Financial immaturity and selfishness - personal debts
Inappropriate behaviour with other women - an affair I couldn't be bothered to prove
Socially irresponsible - getting drunk and not coming home without telling me on several occasions, going out all the time and exluding me
Ignoring me at home.

It was not contested because he knew it was all true. I would think up some things he has done as if it does get sticky.
Also, you will have to come to a financial agreement prior to the decree absolute unless there are special circumstances.