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4 yo dd naughty when me and new man are together

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globalmouse · 13/10/2010 11:31

Been seeing someone for about 8 months now, taking it slowly and not rushing anything. He has met dd a few times, and we are beginning to see more of each other while dd is around - spending afternoons out together and that kind of thing. He stays round once a week and so sees dd in the morning then too.

Now dd is normally lovely. Very well behaved, kind, gentle etc etc, though of course not without her moments. She behaves well when she sees him in the morning. But on an afternoon together she gets very naughty. And I think its because she is used to getting all my attention. Though having said that, she doesnt behave like this when I have friends over.

My new man is very good with her, plays with her on her level etc etc. But how do we deal with this naughtiness? I dont want this to be a negative experience for her, but at the same time, her sulking and throwing things and hitting when he is around is not acceptable! At the moment I ignore low level naughtiness and tell her off for the worse things like throwing and hitting, just as I would at home. But there is definitely MORE bad behaviour when he is around.

Any experiences?

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VictoriasLittleKnownSecret · 13/10/2010 20:25

She's anxious.

It will settle. Don't tolerate the bad behaviour but don't come down hard either.

happenedagain · 16/10/2010 23:29

When i got back with dd's dad my 3 year old dd was naughty, as she missed my attention an i also felt i got less cuddles etc.

If you two normally have days out together it must be hard for her to share you, but i'm sure she will get used to it, i suggest doing these things slowly...

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