Rant about ex

[Hannispan]

sorry to use this space to rant but my ex has wound me up and i need to sound off. When I rang him this morning for the DC to speak with him, I informed him that the youngest has suspected asthma but at 8 months is too young for a definate diaginois. He then asked me what weight the DC were - I said I didn't know because I don't get them weighed as they are both healthy and happy. He is insiting that I go and get them weighed as he wants to know I am looking after them properly. I mean if he cares that much why not pay the mainatance? Or even the travel money to see his kids so he can check them? Just really annoyed as I now have to rearrange a playdate on Friday to take two small children to a weighing clinic that they both HATE and scream all they way through so that my ex knows they are being looked after properly. And I was planning on a nice morning with cofee and cake while the DC trashed someones elses house for a change! Grrrrrrrrrrr
Rant over - deep breath and I'll go and rearrange

er,why on earth are you dropping everything for this???

dont change your plans

get them weighed next week or next month.....its not mandartory to do as he says you know!!

Agree, why are you doing it? Just don't.

i agree with the others; if he is genuinely concerned for their welfare he would hardly be asking you to inform him of their weights over the phone!

he is bullying you, please don't let him!

maybe you could tell him you will not be changing your plans as you have no concerns about their health, then end the call pretty quickly to prevent any more bullshit escaping from his mouth!

grrrr to controlling, bullying XP's!

dont do it!

dont rearrange your plans to meet this spurioous demand.

you have no obligation to get themn weighed on his say so - especially not for him.

if he wants them weighed he can take them to a chemist on his contact visit.

Hi
i know it is really hard to not let your ex wind you up, but that is exactly his aim by the sound of it. why not just weight your children at home, do you have some scales and plot where they on in their book yourself, or look on internet for healthy weight range?
dont change your plans or jump to please his every request

Dont do it. Tell your ex you will get the kids weighed when next convenient or he can do it himself. Then put the phone down

Go and have your coffee, you sound like you need a break

Thanks everyone - I haven't slept for three nights due to a grow spurting toddler geniunely needing food at 2 am and a teething baby so i'm not thinking straight at the moment :-) My wonderful dad took the kids out this morning and after a couple of hours sleep I realised how stupid i was being - I've told my ex that if he wants to know their weight he can weigh them at the dads drop in a the local childrens centre when he has them.

Just ignore him, don't change your plans.

Ask him how much his wallet weighs and ask him take some cash out of it so that he can travel to do it himself!!

What? Say no to him, you nutter! You don't actually have to do anything he says ever, have you not realised this yet?

Hanispan - glad you didn't jump to his command as I don't think it would have ended here at all. As you say, he has the opportunity to get the children weighed himself and if this is a big concern for him then he'll make the effort.

Besides, if he actually know much about his dc he'd know that dc1 is having a growth spurt and eating plenty and dc2 is teething so may not be eating as much!

I was tempted to scream STOP, but then felt you probably don't need someone else telling you what to do. Do you really need this man to tell you what you need to do with your children? I can see why you would want to share information with your ex and you probably hope for some support, but you really don't have to drop things that you enjoy to please (or appease) other people.