do you feal fearfull for the future?

[Mummiehunnie]

As a single parent, where the other parent has no contact, and having mobility issues at the moment, I wonder how I will cope long term physically and financially once the maintenance is finished.

i do sometimes feel fearful, but that has lessened with time (and age!)

i look back at the shit i've coped with, i recognise that i have coped, and that i have the wisdom to proceed in a better fashion if that makes sense.

is your maintenance due to end? do you work?
i am currently going through csa for maintenance, but experience tells me that anything i get will only ever be temporary. when/if i receive anything i will have to be really strict with myself to view the money as an added bonus and not to expect any future payments.

i'm sorry to hear you have mobility problems; how old are your DC's? are you getting treatment? all i can advise on this issue is the obvious: that children require less physical (and more emotional) support with age.

:)

if that was only the case, my youngest creates more and more mess with age... and is wilder with age.... sigh!

maintenance will end one day and am concerned regarding uni fee's, and government cutting back on benefits which I will need to claim then... my condition will never get better, I will be lucky to stay as I am...

I sooo get what you mean about you look back at how much crap you have dealt with and you know you can deal with so much now due to strength...

hmm i think with your condition you might need to ask a little more of your DC's. i know that might sound awful to you, but i have recently met a family in which the mum is physically disbaled. the kids do more around the house than most kids, in fact if their main carer was not disabled eyebrows would be raised at how much they do. but with this family it just makes sense; and their kids are very skilled and empowered :)
maybe you could bribe the littlest to tidy up toys after tea, then receive a nice pudding?

Yes I do worry, ex says he will always support me as I cannot pursue a career due to being a carer for our ds who has ASD. I am in my late thirties and it really is my last chance to do something but its just not possible. I think he means it right now, but can't imagine for one second that any new partner is going to go along with that and he is not exactly Mr Reliable, or I would still be with him wouldn't I?

So yes I worry about my financial future once kids are grown up, I will be in my mid fifties by they time I could think about working again, what possible job could I do then that will make me financially secure. Its quite scary really.