I wanna get laid.....

[uandme]

Do I really?

I had been on pof for over 2mths and met a couple of guys just the once....and one guy in particular. Who i met up with quite a few times, but havent seen him for almost amth now.

Just didnt feel anything anymore and didnt feel great abt meeting up just for sex....its abit out of character for me, especially cos im still legally married.

Joined another site and there has been some interest even though i have said on my profile that im looking for 'Just friends'.

One guy in particular suggested meeting up this sat. which is 2moro, but i chickened out. I have been put off by one of the guys i met up with just the once who i had chatted to for abt a mth and in that time, he seemed to have 'IMAGINED' that we were gonna become a couple when i never said anything of the sort.

He started hassling me which has put me off meeting up with anyone just in case like him. They end up expecting more.

I had suggested meeting up alot sooner just so that we know how we both feel abt each other and if theres any point in carrying on chatting. But he declined.

Apparently its my fault for him thinking that we will be starting a relationship.....

He kept on abt how when we met up and he was polite and decent in conversing with me, so why am i not wanting to go further with him?

I dont need undue hassles like this, so am trying to stay away from guys altogether. Pity really, cos it does get lonely at times. :-(

What should I do? Any suggestions?

I don't understand what you're asking tbh

Sorry for not making sense...:-s

What I was trying to ask...was do I go ahead and do as I was doing. Like meeting up with someone from a dating website, or not?

Bit of a strange question....Im just abit apprehensive bcos of the experience I have had with the person who wanted more from me and I didnt.

Did that make any sense?

I think meetign up for sex is a bit yuck tbh. But I see no harm in chatting on internet dating sites. YOu soon get a feel for someone iyswim. But to go on there looking for sex? No no no no

I havent done that intentionally, thats why I put on my profile that i am looking for 'just friends'...some guys still think that means im up for it.

I have become abit weary of even just meeting up with someone to 'check them out' IFYSWIM. Just in case they expect more and I don't.

Meet them in the daytime for a coffee. Do not meet for the first time at night if you can help it. I think you sound a bit conflicted tbh. Your thread title says you want to get laid! Nothing wrong with that, but you don't beed to feel forced into anything you don't want

Hmm...yes maybe ur right...should change the title. :-)

Trouble is...how do i do that?

To be blunt, putting that you are looking for "Just Friends" on a dating site is useless.

Most men will barely read your profile and even most of them who do will try it on anyway.

If you want to meet just friends, I suggest you ditch the online dating sites and try other sites like citysocialising or Spice.

IF you want friends rather than sex or couplehood, try finding out what groups exist locally for things you are interested in, whether that's a political campaign, learning salsa dancing or wine appreciation. If the first group you join is full of Noah's Arkers, find another one.
There's nothing at all wrong with wanting to get laid/have some casual sex as long as you take sensible precautions to avoid nutters (the bloke you describe sounds like your prototype desperate loser BTW, just block and move on).

The Irony of it is...he was insisting over and over again that he wasn't desperate and how he chatted to hundreds of girls....lol

Uandme: Did he say he was 'genuine'? That's invariably shorthand for 'desperate, resentful and unattractive'...

Come to think of it..yes he did.

Lol I love "genuine"