Just saying hello

[crace]

Hi everyone, I posted some questions on financial stuff but I wanted to say an official "hello".

H has moved out to a friends until a rental comes up and it's all a bit all over the place (not helping that my dd was just in hospital with suspected bowel obstruction).

I hope to give advice/support as well as take some.

Hope you are all ok x

Hi crace, hello to you too.

It is a bit all over the place in the beginning but it does settle down.

Hope your dd is ok. Must be very tough to cope with a hospital visit whilst your H has moved out.

Good luck and keep posting so we know how you're getting on. x

Hi crace,

Hope you are ok?
...and good luck to your dd in hospital.

Hi crace

Hope your dd is back home and getting back to normal now. A friend's ds had a bowel obstruction and had to be operated on, was very scary. He took his stitches to show and tell at play group after they were removed and the staff were not impressed!

Is your split fairly amicable at this stage? Hard to know when one person moves out if it's because things have deteriorated so badly or if they are trying to do the right thing and give some space.
Were you able to put things aside for your dd and both be there at the hospital for her? Being at the hospital on your own isn't fun as I know only too well :(

I thought I had replied - on phone but clearly didn't work here!

Dd back from hospital over a week ago but her recovery was really slow. Just going back to school on Monday.

Her dad was able to come and see her but he let me down spectacularly on relieving me or giving me a break. A sign of things to come? He's always been rubbish at doing things for the kids. He is a good dad when he's around, and provider/responsible just works a lot and doesn't see them much. He (we) have a small holding that takes a lot of time. It will be interesting to see how he copes having them so much on his own. I don't think they are in danger, or he isn't capable but he's never had them for any length of time on his own. Shock to the system! Allows me a break too which is the silver lining as I've not had one in 5 years.

Today is rough as he's moving some of his stuff out, he's able to take over a friends static 2 bed caravan for free until we sell the house. Huge relief he has somewhere to go, playing happy families is rough.

I had to tell our two kids today as well, he is so useless at stuff like that. I have really upped it for them, made as positive as I can.. 2 bedrooms, 2 sets of toys, adventure at Daddys house etc etc. I am determined to keep it amicable.

Thanks for listening, hard to keep talking to the same friends worried they will get sick of me! Separation really is very all consuming!