Lending ex money?

[Hannispan]

Just wanted a few opioions - my ex has contacted me to say he is broke so can I lend him the money to cover the travel expenses of his next visit with the kids. I said no because he allready owes me money which he has being paying back for 8 months and my owes my parents money too. He said that i was being petty and the kids would suffer (true - the contact has only recently become regular and my 2 year is adjusting to seeing daddy every other weeked). So now I don't know whether to lend him the money or not? I'm not rich but i could cut back on a couple of things to find the money just once. What do you think? Thanks

No no no no no. Don't even go there. He's testing the water. If you agree to do it this time, it will be the first of many many times. Tell him in no uncertain terms that the answer is no, and will always be no.

Don't do it.

My ex has tried this, saying he can't afford the petrol to come and visit.

I Look at it this way,if it's important to him, he will find the money himself. Most of us would rather starve than not see our kids. We would crawl over broken glass to get to them.

Let him cut back. It sounds like he's trying it on.

NO!

No

No.

I'd say "no" even if he didn't already owe you money. As he does then I'd say "Hell no!"

i'll er,say no too

how far away is he?

If he sets off walking now...

No.

He´s calling you petty and yet OWES you AND your PARENTS!! money??!!

He should be ashamed of himself!

Don´t fall for his emotional blackmail bullshit!

Any extra money you have you save it for you and your kids, not throw it away to a free-loader!

You will also be teaching your children a valuable lesson!

No. As OldLady says "...if he sets off walking now..."

If you moved the kids to a different country then perhaps you could consider sharing the journey in some way...

otherwise HELL NO.