Can you actually be bothered...

[HappyWithLife]

...to get back on the dating treadmill? I joined my single friend (at my friend's insistence) but after only 2 days it is clear it's a waste of time (members not paid up so can't read/reply/send messages so what's the point?).
Anyway, I was thinking about it today and not sure I can even be bothered dating. The whole 'is he going to like me/fancy me/call me thing'. So I've decided to take a 6 month break from even thinking about it. I think maybe it's the cold dark evenings out versus warm cosy evenings in fleece pj's that's done it. Is it just me?

No, it ain't just you

I don't want a relationship at all at the moment. I'm far happier without. Sex is quite nice but only with someone really great - can't even be bothered with that most of the time!

I can't believe it took me 37 years to figue this out.

Big fat nope. Not interested one iota in a relationship.

Pass the beer nuts.

I can slop around in wellies and an apron, do however much damage I like to the garden, go on my swing at midnight in the rain.

Do I miss sex? no. Do I think about sex? Not often. Is my life shit without sex? No. Can a man make me whole? No. Only I can do that.

I am on PoF and gets lots of messages but have no idea why i am on there as I never meet with any of them and usually don't reply to their SHOCKING messages -ie bad spelling or wonky faces and all using lol which makes me want to reach for a hammer....)

Relationship?Dating? Pah. My exH is doing enough of that for me, and half of the UK.

Nope.

But then I've only just started to get back on the life treadmill recently. Still falling off that from time to time but at least am on it again.

I don't want a man any more. Sure I'd love a partner, an equal, a caring sharing considerate person to share life with and some sex would be nice too. But all those things don't come packaged in a 'man' shaped parcel.

Been let down too many times to even want to try and trust believe a guy ever again.

Well, I'm not completely single as DD's father is still kicking around in the periphery of my life but that's entirely because I can't be arsed to do anything about it. Soooo, I'm sort of in a sort of relationship with someone I ought to kick into touch but I can't be arsed. Also, can't be arsed to even consider seeing anyone else.

DD's dad sees us about once a week at the moment - suits me nicely

Yay...so it's not just me then. Things I love about being single -

Wearing Big Pants without worrying that they're not sexy.
Not having to shave my legs as often.
Having the whole bed to myself
Being able to watch trash tv without a running commentary
Being able to have a carpet picnic for tea instead of a cooked dinner, the kids love it.

What else?

I've been in the can't be arsed phase for the last 9 years. Besides I'm a bit of a weirdo, I find having to socialise uncomfortable at best. How the hell does a missfit like me end up with 3 DC? Urggh error does not compute .

too too too many things!

I don't have to keep getting on planes and trains when he told me to fuck off.

I painted my house yellow.

I can get fat.

Nobody to say 'you can't hoover properly'

No lies (but I only found out about all of those after he had gone).

So I repeat. No Lies.

Also, I can make ds laugh like a drain. We laugh. A LOT. Exh did not have a sense of humour gene. He would have been Jealous.

I am free to go to Morocco with my friend and do not much at all but enjoy - without having to worry that
He does not like my friends
He is not seeing or doing anything mightily intellectual.

God, he was a wanker.

nO i CAN'T.

if it happens it happens, i don't have barriers up around me. I have processed the trauma my x put me through. Feel quite sane now. Would be very wary about jeopardising my equilibrium now by putting myself through dating!!

whiteandnerdy is not an attractive name..some might say.

How about:
'ITMagicianwithlove' or
'ITWizardwithalargeone'?

or sumink?
unless it's small..

'ITMerlinhasshrunk'?

sort of enigmatic

No it isn't just you,For It's hibernation time!

Yes to the not bothering to shave your legs(unless you've got to go to the docs)..

Yes to the watching films that make you cry, while eating ALL the chocolate yourself..

Yes to the spending ages on MN, without thinking someone else is sitting by himself bored in the kitchen..

I'll think about it again when the sap starts rising in the spring!...
Oh, have to point out,just ended a relationship of 3 years , only 3 weeks ago, before that i was single for 9 years!!(after birth of DS2)
Picky moi? Can say tho' it IS just like riding a bike, you can easily get back on the saddle when the fancy takes you..

Mmm mmmm just remembered i've got a big bar of fruit and nut in the cupboard, and its ALL MINE!