Is anyone out there doing a shared parenting agreement with their ex?
We have two kids (DS - 4, DD - 19 months).
We have 'agreed 'a 50/50 split as this is the only way we can avoid ending up in court.
The kids seem fine so far (has been in place since August). Very little anxiety / crying etc.
However, I feel dreadful. Feel guilty for 'abandoning them' 50% of the time and terrified that the long-term effects of this on their emotional development will be negative. Particularly on the little one as she is at a critical age for identity forming etc.
I spend every other weekend without them in tears. I don't have any relatives or close friends in the area. Moved here 9 years ago because of ex-husband's job but have never worked in the area and only have friends through baby groups etc. Don't want to see them at the weekends because they have their kids, and I don't have mine.
There are two reasons why I am not applying for residency. Mainly I don't want a messy and expensive legal battle as that's not in the children's interests. Secondly, the kids seem to be ok with this arrangement...
Just wondering if anyone else has been there with kids this age, and how they got through it.
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MakingAMess · 06/10/2010 08:19
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