what happens when you first split ?

[Fibilou]

I have really got to the end of the road with H. This weekend he was on a stag weekend, I was stuck with a teething baby and I had to do my first day back after maternity leave by myself, drop her to nursery, pick her up, put her to bed and then go immediately out again to a training session (I do body shop at home as well as working 27 hours a week). I had been up since 6am and got back at 10.30, having not eaten all day. H got back from his weekend while i was at the training. The first thing he said to me was criticism about how I had cleaned the oven and "what other things have you fucked up while I've been away". I can't face the rest of my life like this, I am just sick of being constantly criticised. He never does anything around the house and only wants to look after the baby on his own terms. He has never got up for night feeds and despite the fact that she wakes around 6am every day he will never get up with her, it's always me. If I ask him to do anything he will grudgingly do it (in his own time) but will never actually volunteer or take the initiative.

Anyway, I am looking for somewhere so I can move out. My income will be about £960 per month. How much can I afford on rent ? I won't be running a car and don't have a TV

U would be entitiled to housing benefit if you rent, and dont have assessts of over 16k, also working tax credits. If u go to the website of your local council they have calculators for working out HB.

I have a small 3 bed semi,

Bills approx per month
Gas/elec= £50
Ctax =£90
Water= £40
House ins=£12
House Keeping Approx=$150

Then i have childcare fees.

You will need a bond to rent a house, as well as 1st months rent, but HB will be back dated to the day you move out

Not sure if this helps but this is what i did, when i was looking.

Also get the HB forms and get the evidence together to speed up your application.

Good luck with everything.

xx

I don't really have anything to add but just wanted to reassure you that its not as scary as it seems. I'm a newly single mum and have had great support and advice from the jobcentre. Theres a number you can call for advice, they will take your details and tell you exactly what you can claim. Also your ex will have to pay 15% of his income for child maintenance.

It is a really scary step to take but you sound like you've reached the end of your tether with him (I'm not surprised), once you've taken that first step things will get better. Good luck xx

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my husband was pretty much the same with our baby..i have finally taken the courage to file for legal seperation as i have had enough. Not only does mine speak to me like dirt but he shouts at our son over menial issues and drinks excessively and urinates ..ruining furniture and walls in process. Get out now babe.I am getting out just waiting on finding a house.He has knocked my confidence i have depression because of him.xxx citizens advice are fabulous and so have the council and jobcentre

Try here to work out what benefits/tax credits etc you would be entitled to.

The lone parent advisors at the jobcentre are great and don't forget your health visitor for support as well.