What are your definate 'No-No's'?

[HappyWithLife]

I'm sure I'm not the only one with a tick list of must haves and must not haves when it comes to prospective dates. A lot of them are quite tongue in cheek and moveable (hair colour etc) but what are your definates?

My definate 'NOs' would have to be smoking/heavy drinking/poor hygiene...pretty standard stuff but do you have any more obscure ones?

wow dating is a mine field not sure i want to again now but mainly because I'm not sure whats expected of me? where can i find the relevant info on means 'No Nos'?

Plus bad- mouthing ex-wives / mother of kids,leaving a family without a really good reason / it being mutual )

Rudeness generally but espesially to children, waiters etc.

"Woo" and being to up their own arse (including rastafarianism, self actualisation / NLP), vegans,frutarians /'raw' food freaks and junk food junkies etc.

Nasty mates / family (unless he admits it), selfishness,irresponsibility, disloyalty, infidelity, drug abuse,stubborness, sulking, anger issues and constantly interrupting. Lacking in imagination / ambition (yes including in bed). Secrecy. Lies. Small.. er.. feet with untrimmed ...er... toenails.

MEN'S*

Ok, a selected few from my list.

Attraction wise no-nos :

Short men (9 times out of 10 there is the issue of SMS)
Hairy men
Long hair
Troublemakers
meat heads
gym rats

Dates

Those who suggest cinema
talk too much about themselves
think they're better than anyone else
Equally thinking everyone owes them a living is a turn off
getting hammered
sweaty
dirty shoes/trainers

And then once they've cleared those auditions

Dating

Clingy
jealous
no ambition
slags exes off
saying they'll do something but never doing it

My last bf used to sit and stare at me. It used to creep me out. I told him this but he carried on doing it because he thought it was sweet and showed he cared and liked looking at me. NO! It showed that you carry on doing things after I tell you they weird me out. Even my friends noticed and my DD mentioned it when we used to get out of the car (he used to do it when he was driving too!)He said he just loved me and was insecure but didn't realise that his neediness was a huge turn off and kind of scared me.

Turned out I was right that he was a bit insecure. When I finished with him he stalked me for weeks.

Oh he also used to go commando and wear the same jeans three days in a row

Anal sex is a no no!!

yes toddlerama - I also had that fingernail thing - saw it on a guy i know and it also made me shudder inside.

Seeing as though I wandered onto this thread i'll leave a message from my (A Man) perspective.

No fat backsides

No shortbackandsides

No Hollyoaks

Football knowledge an advantage

And if you want a second date?

Try to keep it in your pants on the first date.

PS...My missus said she would never date a smoker, but she hadn't met me up 'til that point.

Never say never :)

Try to keep it in your pants on a first date?

that's not actually that difficult, if a man doesn't coerce you into sex.

If he wants it on the hand and so do you, he is a total creep not worth seeing again, if he then doesn't want a second date because you did something with him that he wanted you to do. What a revolting, mysogynist attitude, I wouldn't want to go out with a bloke with those sort of views anyway tbh.

That should say "if he wants it on the other hand", not just on the hand, that means something different.

As a man, I'm finding all this very fascinating!

oh bugger though men liked a bit of junk in the trunk?

LOL LF are you honing up your dating techniques?

After reading this it seems like I have too!!

ooooo eck, where do I start? I've been single 9 years now and the few contacts I've had from dating sites have instantly put me off with various things...

Waffling about shite
too fat/hairy/skinny/ugly
Heavy drug user
Heavy smoker/drinker
Gambling habit
Football obsessive - ex's annoying habit
Not willing to let me squeeze his spots
Bad hygiene, especially in the groin area, last thing you want is to be balking every time you go down there...
Bigotry of any kind, racism, misogyny, disablist etc.
Being a 'playa' - sleeps around and doesn't get checked out for STDs
Bad manners
Oversensitive, crying in public - another of ex's embarrassing faults, you really don't need it in Tesco, save it till we get home ffs!
Ignorant to a woman's sexual needs
Too small in the willy dept.
Right winger
Controlling, potential psycho domestic abuser
Utter bollocks taste in music
Unwilling to allow me to have my own time and space
Uneducated and stupid - silly sense of humour excepted
Txt spkng, crp speling
Can't hold an intelligent conversation
Emotionally stunted and bitter
Lazier than I am!

I could probably go on all night