DS went to his Dad's today as normal. XP and his girlfriend smoke and usually DS comes back with a faint smell of smoke on his clothes/hair which I don't like, but always begrudgingly accepted that he is his child too, and smoking's not illegal. In any case I'd be a bit of a hypocrite as I occasionally smoke myself, never around DS though and I would never take him into a house where people were or had been smoking.
But today he came back absolutely reeking like a fag packet, it was on his t shirt as well as his jumper, had to give him a bath and put his clothes in the wash straight away as it was making me feel sick :( Now he has been awake for the last 30 minutes (just got him to sleep again) coughing, wheezy, distressed, unable to sleep. I might be jumping to a horrible conclusion but I'm really concerned that being exposed to such a smoky environment today has caused this coughing and the thought has really upset me :( It wasn't an amicable split and I've always tried really hard to put DS first and make sure he sees XP whatever I thought of him but I just want to text him and say that DS is too ill to come tomorrow now.
I've had loads of issues with XP over contact (and he was emotionally abusive, manipulative, controlling etc when we were together) and am seeing a solicitor to discuss these issues, my rights etc some time in October but I've been strongly advised by social services (long story) to go for mediation first. It just feels like this is going to stretch on for even longer.
Any advice?