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ds is getting attached to his friends father.

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nightowl · 06/09/2005 01:34

ds's dad is on the scene but has never really been a good dad, doesnt have a lot of time for him etc. he sees him when he can be bothered (every couple of weeks) but always takes him home and bungs him in front of the playstation with his stepbrother. its nothing new. ds was planned but his dad has never been that interested since day one. they dont talk, he doesnt play footie with him, or take him out on his bike..nothing like that.

ive noticed lately that ds is coming out with things like "i cant wait to tell X (his friend's dad) this that and the other, anything he is proud of achieving. they are our neighbours..their son is a couple of years younger than mine but they play and im quite good friends with the mother. she comes around a lot and we have a good chat and a laugh. both of them have been lovely to me and helped me a lot in the last few months. her dp is so nice to my ds, talks to him and plays with him. i feel so sad when i see them together, like this is what his own dad should be doing. ds seems to be getting very attached to him. i know soon he's going to ask why his own dad isnt like that with him...and what the hell do i say?

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suzywong · 06/09/2005 02:30

sorry to hear this is making you sad, but you could count your blessings. You both seem to get on well with this family in a natural and easy way.

I guess with the issue of what do you say to ds about his dad you just have to point out that everyone is different. Is there anything his father is good at so you could highlight that and therefore not be entirely negative?

MarsLady · 06/09/2005 02:37

I agree with suzy. At least your son has a positive male role model in his life, someone that he is willing to talk to.

As to his actual father, well kids know more than we think. The real loser will be his father.

HappyMumof2 · 06/09/2005 12:03

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nightowl · 07/09/2005 01:17

i suppose the thing that worries me is that he's getting attached to something thats not his to keep...IYSWIM!!

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