2 days before EDD and going it alone ....

[flower1988]

For one reason or another - mainly my OH being one of the shittest men on the planet (or certainly being up there with the rest of them) - I am leaving my OH today.

I am due to have our first baby on Friday and need a little reassurance that it's ok going it alone, in fact that it's better and I'm going to be alright at it.

Thanks everyone. Sorry to bring your days down :( xx

Hi flower1988
i am probably not the best at giving advise, as i find it quite difficult being alone but probably cause i am suffering depression. However, what i want to say is that if you know it is well and truly over then good luck, i cant pretend it is easy but if you have good friends and family it will make the world of difference. Are you sure you are not just panicking with your EDD coming up? Having your first baby is life changing and puts a huge strain on some relationships anyway. It WILL be ok, a lot of it is down to attitude.
you are not bringing our days down, keep posting. xx

Hi flower1988, i agree with first comment, as long as youre 100% sure its over and youre not happy to bring a baby into your realtionship then do as you must, does he have any idea things arent gud?

How has he been thruout the pregnancy?

Ive pretty much had two babies whilst on my own (as like you for one reason or another idiot man!!!) and you will find the strength to go it alone i can guarantee it, things will get a little bit easier every day and when you look down at that beautiful baby so dependent on you for everything you will be amazed at what you can achieve all on your own.

Keep posting let us know how youre doing, and gud luck if you do go it alone tonite

hi there. sorry to hear things are that bad. to reassure you I've done it alone too(though I had 2 friends at the birth, do you have support for that?) and it is fine. particularly if it is first baby as you can do exactly as you both want rather than cater to demands of older children etc.

do you have someone to come and help in the first week or two though, your mum perhaps? it is helpful to have another person around in the early days. also you should have some sort of plan about what happens if you end up having to have a C-section.

but you will do fine, it's tough at times but also you will be only person in charge, doing it your way and finding your feet without unhelpful input or other stresses.

hi flower1988
how are you today?

Oh my Goodness. Going it alone with a chance at happiness is better than staying in misery. I admire people like you who make the difficult choices, I've never met anyone that it didn't work out well for!!

I'm ok. Very pregnant and uncomfortable - concentrating on that! He has been there the entire rest of the time yes. My mum is 10 minutes away and brilliant though :)

Hi Flower, I never thought I could have done it on my own, but 17 mnths on I have a happy healthy DD.. and a reasonably happy and healthy mommy with her 24/7. You are lucky to have your mum so close by and it will be a HUGE help. It is tough, and somedays just sitting and crying seems like the only thing you can manage - but when that little person is waiting with teddy to be plucked from the cot in the morning and wants to give YOU a wee hug to say hello..things don't seem so bad any more

PS Plus Mumsnetters postings are always a good remedy for putting things back in perspective and realising you are not on your own

hello! just thought i may add that as long as you are sure then things will be ok. ive been through it twice ( yes so much for learning from mistakes!!) my DD is now 18 weks old and were coping fine, even Ds is in love with her. Glad you have a supportive family near by...could your mum possibly stay with you for the first couple of days? i asked my mum to do that with both of mine and it really helped untill you get to know baby's routine. good luck hope baby is safely here.