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5yr old DS - what to tell him? & do I wait for the questions?

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soph252 · 10/09/2010 12:11

Hi There, this is the first time I have posted on here, but I really need some advice. I am a single mum of one little boy, aged 5.

To cut a long story short his father disappeared shortly after he was born & has shown no interest whatsoever - no payments & no contact, although he has my number & knows I would never have stopped him. He is a conman & has been to jail recently for this and I feel is not mentally stable, so I am not chasing him down and insisting on contact & am not sure how I would feel should he contact us and ask for contact although obviously would want to do the best thing for my DS.

My big concern is that I have never spoken to my DS about his and no questions have yet been asked. I am concerned now that he is getting to an age where soon he will know that everyone has to have a dad to have been born, so will want to know where his is. How on earth do I answer that to a child of that age limiting any feelings of rejection - being honest but giving only the info I have to iyswim. Any help or suggestions would be really appreciated, as I am starting to worry about this. My ds is very content and secure and I am worried that this could all change especially if I don't deal with this in the right way. Please can anyone help?

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cestlavielife · 10/09/2010 12:42

write out a story you comfortable witha nd stick to teh same version each time - keep it simple.

"mummy met your daddy and we made a baby which is you. after that daddy had to go away. some people dont have daddies lviing with tehm for differnet reasons. when you are older you will be able to write to daddy. he lives in xxx country but a long way away. "

so long as you stay happy and secure - then he will be.

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