Christmas

[Supercherry]

I was just curious what other lone parents do for Christmas regarding their DCs and seeing their dads?

Christmas with my family is cosy and warm and happy and our family all get together to celebrate.

XP's family otoh have all fallen out with each other, it is very quiet and depressing there- no christmas spirit.

What I would want is to have Christmas with my family but tell XP and MIL etc that they are welcome to come and visit any time during xmas day (and put our differences aside) to see the DCs. I am probably being unrealistic here about XP's ability to be civil but I am hoping over time this will be the case.

Sorry, didn't mean thatto come over quite as it did, but it gave me a kick up the backside when I did it, and I needed that, franklu. It puts things into perspective and I felt how very lucky and privileged I have been...

Ladydeedy, I know how lucky and blessed I am. I know my problems are minor in the grand scheme of things. Didn't think this thread was particularly moany and whether things are trivial or not as a single parent with not that many people in RL to vent to, getting things off my chest on here helps me to be a better mum. Less stressed. I need to vent.

Oh yyes, and completely agree, I just meant for those who had mentioned on here about trying to find a way to fill the day if spending it on their own.

Oh yyes, and completely agree, I just meant for those who had mentioned on here about trying to find a way to fill the day if spending it on their own.

Oooohhhhhh [penny drops emoticon].

I couldn't work out your point. Sorry

I hope you have the Christmas you want - it is worth trying for. It would be great to have a real spirit of goodwill amongst you all, including ex and MIL. Good luck.

Hmm, a bit late joining in (scared to turn on pc as have done to dating thingy and wishing i hadnt!)
Christmas this year am hoping I can stand to invite the git over again (9am til 11), did that last yr and he had only just been gone a few mths. He got to see the kids and give them their presents, I had time to clean the toilet(!), wash up, change beds etc etc before taking the kids to my sisters who met me on the doorstep at 11am with a large gin, cant remember the rest of the day! But had very clean loos when I got home!.

Am not missing out on my kids, thats my reward for having them 24hrs, 7days a week (minus the 6hrs he grants us per wkend!)

Iwillmakeit . I'm in the same boat as you from the sound of things. Do you keep obsessively logging on just to see if there are any messages? Or is that just me

Thank you Ladydeedy, I hope so too :) Hope you have a lovely Christmas too.

Bloody hell it's only September and I'm giving Christmas greetings!

Sadly super i do!
and then if i do get a message need to have drink before i can answer, which doesnt help coherancy!
Oh well.... ALSO not the right thread but what if you come across someone you know! What to do???

Block them, fast, before they can see you .

The first few times I replied to messages I was weirdly nervous and heart fluttery but after a few weeks I'm OK at the messaging thing. Is this all really really new to you?

I've got a date tomorrow night!

Wow! How did it go?
Really new at this messaged a few times then it just stopped, ? Someone rang & was pissed, so that went nowhere...
Am disappointed but keep on trudging!

Hope the date went well, pls tell all!

Iwillmakeit- the date was pleasant but I didn't fancy him at all- kind of wished I'd have used the child free time to watch a film or have a nice hot bath

Oh, what a waste of a free evening!

Been brave and sent a couple of messages just now.(an hiding for the rest of the week!)