My poor 4 yr old.

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Ok single mom....have no support, no outlet either what can I do to let off steam! I really feel for my LIL one as i'm so snappy, headaches seem to be prolonged to the next day and the next.

lil one very good at expressing her feelings, I m really stressing her out, yes she does push boundaries only cause she wants attention and play, but she doesn't stop talking non stop until bedtime which is at 7.30pm, always chasing my attention. I do play with her for a certain time but thats not enough! So as a single parent who works part-time and studies, who has no support how do i have an outlet to let off steam, relax etc so i'm calm to take on the next day, week etc..

Yes, let off steam here
You are doing a great job.

Thanks its just the headaches, especially when she has a tantrum......all my life Ive never been prone to headaches but its changed now, do feel for her at lot she is lovely girl and means well, I'm such a witch sometimes with the moaning. Can you believe she has nicknamed me as moaney trudy!

I'm in a similar situation, studying full time, no family or close friends nearby (they're all on the other side of the world!). My son is 6 now, so maybe he doesn't need as much attention anymore, but he has always had to entertain himself occasionally. He knows that when I am sitting down with a cup of tea I am not to be disturbed unless it is an absolute emergency. I'm not a grumpy, boring mum usually, we play together a LOT, but I need a few minutes now and then to just stop and be quiet.

Also, make the most of your lovely long evenings (assuming you don't work evenings). I always take an hour before bed to watch tv, or read. I have less time in the evenings now to get stuff done, ds's bedtime is getting later, but I am never going to lose that hour, even if I have to get up extra early in the morning to make up for it!

Also, I would consider seeing a GP about the constant headaches. There's no point in suffering if something can be done about it. Otherwise, lots of paracetamol, sleep and keep doing a great job!