Your opinion needed please....

[Supercherry]

My ex and I have agreed that he will have our sons, 2.5yrs and 10mths, twice during the week for tea (dinner) and overnight alternate fri and sat nights. Today we arranged for him to have both boys at 12 today until 12 tomorrow.

I am not worried in the slightest about my 2.5yr old, he is a daddy's boy and I know he will be perfectly settled and happy without me there.

I am a little worried, however, about my 10mth old. I know he'll be fine really, but is that quite a long time for a baby to be away from his mother?

Don't get me wrong, I'm looking forward to the rest but I feel a bit guilty too.

At the same time I know my youngest needs to form a bond with his dad too.

Please tell me I'm being a wally.

It's a longer time for the boys to be away from their father too.

Hey SC, You are not being a wally. I know it is nerve racking but I would grit your teeth and go with it.

Your children will benefit from time with their dad, you will get a much needed break and their father might grow to appreciate what it is like to look after a 2.5 yr and 10 month old full time.

Book yourself something to do with girlfriends or go out. You need some time to recharge, being a LP is really hard work.

Thanks Elastamum :) I think I just needed someone to say it's OK. It's the irrational guilt thing that comes with motherhood I think.

Niceguy, I realise that but the children are pretty used to not seeing their dad as much as me due to his always working long hours and then always arranging things that didn't involve the children and I on his days off. Nice to get another perspective though.

It will be ok. I had the guilty feeling when ds first had an over night with exp at 13months.

Thanks Knickers. I'm now feeling almost sick with nerves. What's wrong with me? Get a grip woman!! halfhearted

My two have just gone, and they are there until Monday now.

Takeaway night for me on a Saturday night when they are not here and peaceful stroll round the carboot or a lie in Sunday

Swallowed, yes I handed them over . The butterflies have stopped. I've been shopping and had a glass of wine. I'm going out tonight with some friends.

It's very peaceful. Twiddling thumbs now and trying to stop myself from doing housework.

Oooh, a lie in sounds lovely knickers.