please cheer me up

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Hi this is my first post. ex has gone for good this time. texted me once he went to work to say he's not coming home. and said not only in lots of debt (I found out a while back) but met someone else as well.
boys 1 and 5 with no male role models in sight!
please has anyone got anything good to tell me?! Have told the older one and he SEEMS fine....

Poor you. Does the debt affect you at all?

I would just tell your boys what you need to for the next few days, save the big explanations until you're feeling less wobbly.

You are honestly better off without him.

no - all in his name and the house isn;t but hasn't contributed anything to the family for a while and won't really tell me what situation is.
i just don't know what to do about anything - residency and stuff
wobbly is exactly it

All I can say is being a single parent is NOT as bad as it's often made out to be.

It's not always easy but it is always rewarding and you get to make all the choices.

Your future is in front of you now, things will change for the better for you and your your children.

I wish you all the best and you will always get support on here.

Well, that's a good thing anyway.
How are you fixed for starting to get sorted out? I found that lists (am a list bore) for things like benefits, CAB appointments etc and getting started on sorting things out for yorsself really helped me. PLus these things take ages so better to do it sooner rather than later.

Are you very sad? Or more shocked and wobbly?