How soon is too soon to have your children meet your new partner?

[emeraldgirl1]

My friend has just introduced her 3yo daughter to her new boyfriend when they've only been dating a month.

Is it just me, or is this a little too soon?

Or am I way off base and actually this is OK?

Any experiences would be welcomed, thank you!!!

Not sure - depends if he has been introduced as "a friend" or boyfriend.

As a friend, I think... but my friend is still in the process of divorcing her ex and he has only moved out in the past week - I am concerned that it is a lot for a little girl to have her dad move away and then have a brand new face around all the time, even if it is only as a 'friend'... but maybe I am over-concerned. I know kids are very adaptable. But to me it seems like it is a lot of change for a little one.

It's a tricky one - very hard to judge unless you know the full story.

I think if it were me I'd be keeping any relationship quiet if my ex had only moved out in the past week...........

Me and DH were only together for 6 months before he moved in with me and DS who was 3 at the time (DS had already met him prior to this when me and DH had only been together for a few weeks) at the time it just felt right. Yesterday we were talking about it, how quick we seemed to do things, but we have been together 8 years now so I suppose it was the right choice for us personally.

Each to their own I guess.

I've been a single mum for 18 months now and have only had one boyfriend who i introduced quite quickly, as soon as i felt i knew him enough to trust him around the kids. I introduced him as a friend though. Don't know if it was the right thing to do or not but without palming them off to babysitters all the time i couldn't have done any different.

I've decided i want to be single for a few years now cos i don't feel i have enough time to work full time, have a fella and look after the kids properly. But i do feel i'm in danger of being alone for hte rest of my life .

My ex has just told the girls he has a girlfriend and wants them to meet her - we moved out four months ago. I think he had been seeing her a long time before that, so maybe he feels ready to move on but the girls don't, they are upset and don't want anything to do with her just yet. They are aged nearly 13 and 10.

Aw, bless them - I don't blame them for not wanting anything to do with her. She might be the nicest person in the world, but if they've been through all that then it is going to be very difficult for them to get along with her.

Does your ex know this? Surely he wouldn't force a meet up if he knew they were so upset?