Ex wants no contact with his ds

[MollieO]

I've known this since early on in ds's life and ex has been very consistent (ds now 6). We have only spoken once since ds was born. The second time was this week to discuss whether ex could pay a level of support consistent with his income. I suggested that ex may wish to see ds (ds is desparate to see his father and struggles with not knowing him at all). Ex wants nothing to do with him because he is still so angry about why ds is here in the first place - unprotected sex at ex's insistence - the second time he tried (without even asking) I stopped him.

I am not sure what to do but it really makes me mad (and )that a grown man can behave like this.

MollieO, I'm so sorry, he sounds like an idiot. Unfortunately, your DS may be better off with one fantastic, loving mum than experiencing some half-hearted contact with a man who seems incapable of acting his age and role as a father.

Really hope you get the financial side sorted, for both you and your DS.

We haven't spoken in 5 years so I'm surprised that he doesn't seem to have moved forward at all. Completely self indulgent. He also blames our relationship for him losing his job - nothing to do with me but I think there may be some truth in that (I know that his boss was appalled at how he behaved towards me when ds was born).

I think you might be right but it does make me sad especially as ds has a half sibling he knows nothing about (and the sibling doesn't know about him either).

I have given him a deadline to come up with a proper financial support proposal (which needs to be a significant increase on what he was paying) or else I will get the CSA to sort him out.