Any practcial advice for separation please?

[scarlotti]

Hi

DH and I have agreed to separate, on a trial basis, to see if we can work out whether we can work out our problems or not. Nobody else is involved, and we've been (and are still) in relate since February. DD is 16 (DH's step DD), DS1 is 5 and DS2 is 9mo.

Any advice on how to tell them would be great. Also any advice on how to manage the two young ones on my own - e.g things like bath time with both boys, getting both up, fed and dressed in the morning when I can't leave the 9mo on his own.

Guess they're daft sounding questions but I'd be grateful for any practical tips people have on managing on a day to day level and on a reduced budget too.

Thanks.

Hi,

Just to say it can be done, you just maynot remember how! Daft things like I had a little tpot, can squeeze 2 decent cups out of it and its drinkable, unlike if you make it in a cup (cant function in the morning without t!).

Clothes out at end of day 5yr old shld b able to do this - for you too! If not able to dress on own do all in one room. Bath at same time baby out first then older one gets a play. Stories together baby to bed then more for older one.

Have managed a year now and a further 4mths before while he was 'trying'. Like I said cant remember all as it blurs but you can do it!

Ps if they have to miss a bath for a while so what, flannels work just as well!

Good luck and keep posting x

Thanks, part of me thinks it will be fine but then I start to think about specifics and wonder what I'll do.
Little steps I guess and muddle through whilst I'm working it all out.

Best go get some flannels!