Newly Single and struggling :(

[debbie251]

I finally left him 2 weeks ago yesterday after 10yrs and 2 DDs ! To get away from the mental torture, i packed and left whilst he was out and moved nearly 200 miles away!
This all seemed like a good idea at the time but now i feel completely lost!!
The girls(7&8) are past the hating me bit to not wanting to talk to their dad which is not what i want! i turn my phone off to stop the 500 calls asking where i am when i going home and doing the i'm sorry bit!! But now feel so cut off from everyone I know and love....
I also didnt plan it well :( still have joint bank account, no money and still relying on him to leave my child benefits alone whilst i try and sort it all....................
God i need to cry but cant...... :(

ring up child benefit and ask for giros. That way at least you have some money. Also ring the jobcentre and ask about income support. Do you have anyone nearby where you moved to?

I didnt know i could get giros ! thanks for that :)
Will go to the job centre in the morning.
And no my nearest friend/ relative is a 2 hr drive away and i no longer have a car!
Hoping to move again soon closer to family, just hard at the moment !

How are you doing debbie? DId you get your money sorted at least? x

Well done for leaving. You need a list of what to do...

1. New bank account
2. claim income support/housing benefit etc
3. get child benefit into your bank/giros.
4. have a look on local board for people near you to meet up with/post here is ok to obviously.

*if ok

Hi yh doing better thanks, still no bank account, i went in yesterday to chase it to find they lost my application form !! so off down there in a bit to sort it out ! IS claim gone in, child benefit sending giros.....

getting there lol

I move to my own place tomorrow and start work in a couple of weeks so really looking forward to that I seem to have achieved more in the last 3 weeks than I did in the 10ish yrs I wasted there !!!!

Kids gone to their dads today for the first time for a few days so I can move so bless my mum she drove here last night and set off at 5.30 this morning to hopefully get there about 9 am ish (love ya mum x)

Well done Debbie, you sound like you've got it all under control. It's tough now but it will be worth it.

Well done debbie.

Its not easy sorting out all the practical stuff like bank accounts etc when there is so much going on in your head. Good luck with the new place and with your new job and I am glad the girls are going to see their dad, as much as we miss our kids when they are gone the break will do you good and you will be able to get on with much more.

Keep positive and you will be able to do this and keep posting on here if you need to, we have all been there, done it and got the t-shirt

lol thanks ... kids have gone... been 10 hrs and miss them like mad already !!
But everything else in place and I move tomorrow so should keep my mind busy for a few days !!
Oh and me and my mum are having girls night out tomoz which i not done for ever so that will be good too.................
just trying to remember the good points about them going to see him ha ha !!