What do you for dc's birthdays?

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Exp only wants to have dd Saturday night, so he can spend Sunday Morning (her birthday) on their own.

I really do not want this to happen..

One..he should have them both

and

two...its her birthday..I gave bloody birth to her.

We were meant to be going out for lunch (wacky warehouse type thing) and get on for the sake of them both..but apparently, he forgot to get the clubcard vouchers

What do you all when it is your dc's birthday?

We've done both shared and separate Birthday parties for the kids.

I've only ever done the shared wacky warehouse with lots of other parents so it's alot easier with other parents for both myself and the ExP to chat to.

As to doing it separate I don't get hung up on the exact day, most childrens parties/birthdays celebrations don't happen on the exact birthday as it's often only feasible on the weekend. So quite often children will celebrate bithdays over a couple of days.

It's not clear from your post but I take it that there is two/or more children and your ExP wants access to only one of them. This does sound a little strange, however it could be he's planning to do something that's only feasible for the one child. Maybe you could have a chat to see if he's planning something, but a birthday celibration is usually better having the kids together than appart. If he's planning something that excludes the other children, even if it is really cool, you could suggest to arrange it for another time.

Anyway to answer the question of "What do I do when it's my DC's birthday", choose a day near or on their birthday when I have access and have the most awsome birthday celibrations possible ... then put them to bed and sleeeeeeep!

We have dd and ds.

He has nothing planned for her, which I why I do not get him wanting to have just.

It will be the first of the birthdays since we have separated and although dd probably won't know anything about it, I do.

Maybe I am just being selfish, but I want to be the one who is there when she wakes up on her birthday.

My ex and i split the day.I have ds's for half the day and he has them for a few hours in the afternoon.If i have something big planned for their birthdays i usually plan it for a few days either side.

I usually have the kids but I do invite him round for tea. He doesnt always come. I also organise their parties and he is expected to attend. Last year he booked a holiday the week of DS1's birthday but didnt tell me or DS until just before that he wasnt going to be around