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Online dating. I listen to your advice...

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 18:15

One part of me says "why not?". But I don't want to look desperate! Anyway, I might be joining one of these sites and see what's around... Anyway... ADVICE, ADVICE, ADVICE, please! Dos and dont's!

Also, which sites are best IYO?

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elastamum · 10/08/2010 19:39

Am on the guardian site and have thus far only met nice men from there. A friend also put me on my single friend but it is rubbish. Have never got a date from it.

There are lots of us on LP doing internet dating but I wouldnt take it all too seriously as it can do you head in. Good for a laugh at times but not for the faint hearted. Good luck

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 21:47

Does the guardian have a dating site?

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knickers0nmyhead · 10/08/2010 22:14

Oh I didnt know about the guardian having a dating bit?

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 22:49

Dunnit! I completed my profile! Interesting people there! Let's see how it goes...

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Mamumu · 10/08/2010 22:56

OMG I feel like going to the supermarket (not sure if that's a good thing)

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knickers0nmyhead · 10/08/2010 23:15

Just signed up for this also...be good to see if I get any mail!

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Mamumu · 11/08/2010 08:46

But you have to be a member to send emails... boo! :S

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elastamum · 11/08/2010 10:23

You can send one liners without being a member. I would see if you get anything you are interested in before you sign up

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Mamumu · 11/08/2010 17:31

thanks!

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Angelcat666 · 12/08/2010 16:48

Try OKCupid. I'm on that one along with Match and Plenty of Fish. OkCupid is free unless you want to join the 'A list', not entirely sure what that gains you, except more photos. Love and friends is another one, can be free or pay but you can only send messages on the pay one.

blackflyinyourchardonnay · 15/08/2010 16:14

I signed up to guardiansoulmates.
Cor they're a fussy lot though aren't they? Or maybe it's not them it's me!

I've been on plenty of fish before and had loads of messages from tossers. This time- zilcho.
Though it has only been a day.

Mamumu- it is a bit like a man supermarket isn't it?!

Hope you're all having better luck than me!

without · 15/08/2010 19:12

Tried the Guardian and only met guys who bigged themselves up.
Match was useless - didn't meet anyone sensible and got stood up once too.
I'm on Plenty of Fish now - met no-one for ages but have just seen a really nice guy a few times so fingers crossed.

Good luck - just bear in mind you need to kiss an awful lot of frogs...

without · 16/08/2010 19:14

Knew I shouldn't say anything about this guy - he suddenly vanished...

Something to watch for - guys just go no contact for no apparent reason and that's it!

GypsyMoth · 16/08/2010 19:17

oh my ex was on plentyoffish....his profile is hilarious!!

yes,he tends to disappear when in prison,etc...

wonder if it was him!

blackflyinyourchardonnay · 16/08/2010 19:50

ILoveTiffany I have an ex on plentyoffish too!
Makes you cringe eh? I sometimes have a quick look at his profile (updated my settings so he doesn't know when I look!) just to beat myself for the wasted years! What the hell was I thinking, aged 19-22 pining over a total tosser?!

Sorry yours has disappeared without- ruddy typical!

GreenDemon · 17/08/2010 00:29

I've been on POF for just over a week now. I have spent the weekend talking to a lovely sounding guy. He has a zombie plan, and he was the one who brought up the subject! :o That plus many matching choices in very random subjects have made me very sure he must be an axe murderer as I can't be that lucky this early on.

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Mamumu · 18/08/2010 17:33

I have just deleted my profile on the Guardian site a few minutes ago... I think it's too soon, or maybe I'm just not made for online dating. It feels too akward to tell a stranger about you without really knowing him. And then, I think I miss my ex... boo-hoo!

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veritythebrave · 18/08/2010 19:22

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petitfromage · 18/08/2010 20:21

I've been on my single friend (good fun, some nice dates but nothing too serious) and now eharmony which I would recommend if you are looking for a relationship rather than just a bit of fun.

Now on date 7 with eharmony guy and so far so good...

So yes don't take it too seriously but for lp think it's great as people can see straight away on your profile that you have a kid and if that's not for them they don't need to contact you. Has done nothing but boost my confidence and get me back 'out there'.

Oh and I'd highly recommend dragging your coupled up girls round for a night of wine and assessing the men on internet sites! We had a ball and all my married friends were falling over themselves to find fit men for me online! They gave me a list of their top ten that I HAD to contact. Hilarious night, and reminds you that dating is meant to be fun not stressful!!

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