Dilema - 2 men in one day?

[scaredoflove]

I have been strung along by a man for over two years, I have posted about him long time ago

I fell in love and allowed him to treat me badly

After no contact, he phones out of the blue and comes around for coffee this afternoon, we ended up in bed. Sex is outstanding and I orgasm with him, through penetration - which only ever happened with ex husband. One of the reasons I'm so drawn to him

I have been chatting with a man for a month from plenty of fish, he lives local, 15 years younger and stunningly beautiful. Local bar still open and he wants to take me for a drink to local bar which is open til 2am. He is muscular and tall and just OMG beautiful

How can I go for a drink knowing I have just had sex with another man?? How can I put it out of my mind, what if he wants to kiss? I was just kissing another man 5 hours ago!

First man has played me around for two years, second one is new and exciting.

How bad is it to see 2 men in one day?

I see no dilemma.

You haven't got a commitment to either of them and there's no law that says you shouldn't have shagged someone 5 hours before going out with someone you haven't yet got a commitment to.

Go out with the new one. The Devil you know might be a good shag, but you know he's a tosser. The new one might be a good shag and Not a Tosser. (And who knows, he might meet an even higher bar than simply Not a Tosser, he might actually be positively nice.)

It's not bad at all, in your circs. Go for the drink! He sounds nice btw, and sorry, but man who has strung you along for 2 years does not sound nice, even if he is a good shag.

Have fun!

Go, and think of it as good, not bad. You can go and feel like a v.sexy lady. Two men in one day...! Good luck :)

Just go for it. And keep away from the first one imo. He sounds like bad news. Make sure that was just a once-of! Use the glow it gave you to be gorgeous and pull the other guy, kicking the mess abouter to the kerb!

I'm 43, second man is 29 - that's not good is it?

What on earth is he wanting an older, overweight woman for??

And now just had text from first one, saying he is around tomorrow - I have not had one man in 10 months, now I have 2! Arrgh

Both at yoru peak - go for it.

And ignore that text (be good to yourself - seriously, ignore him!)

not wrong at all, and the age gap is not something i would worry about, in fact i have dated men that age, though my bf now is only 5 yrs younger

fwiw i asked him what he thought, and he said he saw no problem with it

you are a single woman, no promises made so just enjoy

If you are honest, you know what he's after.

But hey, you are single so go for it. You are doing nothing wrong. I once managed to date three women in one day so don't worry!

Young man! :o

Have fun!

Shit - well that went totally wrong and I have been a complete fool

Younger man and me been chatting for ages, asked me out tonight. we were texting back and forth and he would say lets meet, then so no lets chat. So we chatted on text and he was being so very charming. I gave him my address. Carried on chatting, and he tried to turn it sexual. I didn't want to and told him and he got all arsey

Saying he knew where I lived and could turn up anytime. I ignored, then I started getting random facebook requests (he already knew my emai) I asked him to leave me alone and he started to threaten me

I've called the local police to lodge it and if he does turn up, I'll call 999 but I'm terried. Why am I such an idiot

You're not an idiot, he's a presumptuous arse! Maybe keep a separate email address for your future encounters? Onwards and upwards :)

Oh no, you're not an idiot at all. He's an arse, as Alouiseg said. It's bad luck for you.

Bloody hell - what a tosser. You did the right thing to tell the police. Even if he didn't hurt you he may do with someone else next time, or he may have a history.

Anyway, no problem with the original dilemma, BTW.

OP - you asked what a 29 year old man would want with a 43 year old woman such as yourself?

I would imagine "an easy lay" to be the answer. And his behaviour since Friday has only confirmed this.

Might be an idea to exercise a teeny-weeny bit more discretion in the future.

There are no laws governing sexual relations between consenting adults but there is good old-fashioned common sense and you yourself had doubts about this situation.

I have been on PoF and, speaking as a former single man with zero scruples, found it be a very fertile hunting ground for s*x without commitment. If that is what you want, go ahead with your wits about you.

If you want a bit more than that, try www.match.com or any of the more reputable sites.

Best of luck!