Donor sperm: advice?

[Rowan49]

Hello

I hope I am posting in the right place!

I am 29 years old and I am single. I've never been in a relationship and with my 30th birthday looming it's starting to look increasingly unlikely it will ever happen for me.

What I do desperately want is a family, and I have been considering the option of getting pregnant using donor sperm. Has anybody here ever done this? I'd be really interested in thoughts and opinions.

Many thanks x

Hi

Its so nice to meet someone in the same possition as me. Im 31 and although I have been in quite a few relationships none has lasted and i haven't me the one. I began thinking about sperm donors at around 27 and said that I would do it if I was still single at 30. My 30th birthday came around quickly and i decided i was too young to make such a big decision. I reset my time scale to 35 and began to throw myself into dating. I have met three lovely men but i have not given the relationships a chance as as soon as a thought they were not the one I soon ditched them to continue the search.

Out of the blue a month ago a friend contacted me saying that his friend has been talking to him and he really wants to be a sperm donor and would love to find someone that wanted a baby but needed a donor. I have met with the donor several times and i have discovered that he is an old school friend. We are seriously considering doing this but the whole process is really hard. Trying to answer and ask all the correct questions, talking to family, working out finances, my head is a mess!

I totally understand where you are coming from and i am beginning to realsie what a huge decision it is.

Let me know if you have any more questions and i may contact you if i need honest opinions

Keep positive x

Thank you!

I think my main worry is what I would tell my son or daughter when they got to their teens. I am lucky in that I own my own home, have a well paid and stable job with quite child friendly hours, own car etc. There's no real reason why I shouldn't go ahead and do it.

I think I have decided that three years from now is my absolute definite must do it - I'll be 33, nearly 34, and if I haven't met someone by then (unlikely) I will take the plunge. Otherwise I know I will regret not having had a child and I think nearly 34 is old enough really.

I don't think there is anything wrong - but then I wouldn't, would I I want to be a mother for all the other reasons other women want to be mothers but I don't have a partner!

have a look for the Donor Conception Network - they seem to have quite an active lone parents board and meetups etc. Good luck x

Ive just had a look at that website, thank you so much it is exactly what i have been looking for!

if you are still thinking about going down this route ... I decided at 37 to go it alone and it was tough (and expensive) but worth it in the end.

my little boy was born in April this year ( I was 40 by then)

You are far too young in your twenties to think of doing this. What the hell will you tell your child about his father?

If you really are running out of time then it's slightly more understandable and slightly more easy to explain, but if you are still young enough to meet someone, form a relationship and then get pregnant, then it's absolutely shocking (in my opinion) that you would get pregnant with a stranger's sperm.

Sorry if this offends - it's something I feel very strongly about.

Hi Rowan49, where are you from?